{"version":"https://jsonfeed.org/version/1.1","title":"Stephen Ajulu","home_page_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/","feed_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/categories/masculinity/feed.json","description":"Hello, I'm Stephen Ajulu, a seasoned multidisciplinary tech professional with over a decade of experience. I build impactful solutions using design, tech, and engineering in the pursuit of impact.","icon":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg","authors":[{"name":"Stephen Ajulu","url":"https://stephenajulu.com","avatar":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg"}],"items":[{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/who-is-an-outlier-male-and-what-s-the-male-advantage/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/who-is-an-outlier-male-and-what-s-the-male-advantage/","title":"Outlier Male Series: Who is an outlier male? What''''''''s the male advantage?","summary":"I gotta thank Kris from 1STMAN for introducing me to the concept of The Male Advantage → How every man can drastically increase his sexual market value through years of self-improvement.\nAs I’ve said before, the term SMV is highly misleading, it should be called just Value instead. A man with a high SMV is valuable. Period.\nAs you increase your SMV, not just attraction but the quality of your entire life goes up → every male celebrity or professional athlete who started off as an ugly duckling is glaring evidence of this.\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eI gotta thank \u003ca href=\"https://www.youtube.com/c/1STMAN\"\u003eKris from 1STMAN\u003c/a\u003e for introducing me to the concept of \u003ca href=\"https://www.amazon.in/Male-Advantage-women-resist-Outlier-ebook/dp/B013TDV738\"\u003eThe Male Advantage\u003c/a\u003e → How every man can \u003cem\u003edrastically\u003c/em\u003e increase his sexual market value through years of self-improvement.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs I’ve said before, the term SMV is highly misleading, it should be called just Value instead. A man with a high SMV is \u003cem\u003evaluable.\u003c/em\u003e Period.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAs you increase your SMV, not just attraction but the quality of your \u003cem\u003eentire\u003c/em\u003e life goes up\u003c/strong\u003e → every male celebrity or professional athlete \u003ca href=\"https://brightside.me/wonder-people/13-celebrities-who-turned-from-ugly-ducklings-into-sex-symbols-333960/\"\u003ewho started off as an ugly duckling\u003c/a\u003e is \u003cem\u003eglaring\u003c/em\u003e evidence of this.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRollo’s Sexual Market Value (SMV) graph for men vs women illustrates the Male Advantage (MA) beautifully.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e![](\u003ca href=\"https://miro.medium.com/max/875/0\"\u003ehttps://miro.medium.com/max/875/0\u003c/a\u003e*smZM4aRG0WX_olh-.jpeg =700x344)\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs the name suggests, women don’t have the MA → their SMV, standing, and “value” in society are largely dependent on their looks.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhat more evidence than the Instagram models who \u003ca href=\"https://influencermarketinghub.com/glossary/onlyfans/\"\u003eare minting money off their OnlyFans\u003c/a\u003e?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSure, there are brilliant women spearheading research and building companies. But very few men ever go, \u003cem\u003e“Damn! She built a million-dollar company. That’s so hot!”\u003c/em\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"this-comes-down-to-our-evolutionary-wiring\"\u003eThis Comes Down to Our Evolutionary Wiring\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSince women have a high biological cost of sex (9 months of pregnancy plus having to care for the child), they are \u003cem\u003ewired\u003c/em\u003e to be picky about who they choose.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhile men on the other hand have a very low biological cost (theoretically, one ejaculation can impregnate hundreds of women), we’re driven to spread our seed as far and wide as possible.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn other words, men prefer quantity and women prefer quality.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAdd the fact that a woman is rendered largely helpless while carrying a baby and needs someone to care for her and her kids (females are genetically the weaker sex), men need to be providers and protectors as well.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"what-all-this-adds-up-to\"\u003eWhat All This Adds up To\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e**This means that for men, attraction is largely about a woman’s _looks. _**Sure, a good personality, hobbies, character, etc. weigh in, but they’re minuscule. And that’s a \u003cem\u003echoice.\u003c/em\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou might \u003cem\u003echoose\u003c/em\u003e to date or marry a well-rounded woman but a zero-personality super-modelesque woman is the one that’s going to get your sex drive racing.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBut for women, attraction is defined by a \u003cem\u003ehost\u003c/em\u003e of things\u003c/strong\u003e → Sense of humor, confidence, personality, risk-taking ability, grooming, fitness, daring, discipline, and well, looks too.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhy I Called It a Curse\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNow, this is great right, any man can put in the work, climb into the top 20% of men and reap the results. — Basically, achieve a life of purpose and abundance?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn theory, yes. But the reason even the MA exists and high-value men get to relish such an amazing lifestyle is because of the bottom 80% of men. But if this were possible, why aren’t most men doing it?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor two reasons → Firstly, most don’t know about the MA. Secondly and majorly, most don’t \u003cem\u003ewant\u003c/em\u003e to put in the work.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn a world of instant gratification, putting in real work and delaying gratification for years and decades is by no means easy.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is the curse → most women can ride the age wave (late-teen and early twenties) and experience what it means to be at the top. But men? Nada, it takes work to reach the top and very few of us are willing to do that.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTestament to this is the fact \u003ca href=\"https://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard-to-be-an-average-man-on-dating-apps/\"\u003ethat 85% of women on dating apps find only the top 10 or 15% of men attractive\u003c/a\u003e.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor men, below-average literally means the bottom 80 or 85%, not the bottom 50% as the definition of average goes.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"make-it-a-boon\"\u003eMake It a Boon\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBy giving you this information, I’ve solved half the problem → the other half is on you. Do you \u003cem\u003ewant\u003c/em\u003e to experience the MA or not?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you shook your head in a vigorous yes, \u003cem\u003estart\u003c/em\u003e right now.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eJoin the gym and start building a 10/10 aesthetic physique. This will take a shit ton of work.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGo out, talk to people, and improve your social skills. Read books if you’re totally socially inept. Ask out women, develop a thick skin to rejection, and get better and more confident at this.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLearn skills, get a job, start a business, invest smartly, and start side hustles. Build your wealth one brick at a time.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf I’m sounding like a motivation guru, best believe that’s my intent → \u003cstrong\u003eI write these as much for \u003cem\u003emyself\u003c/em\u003e as for you.\u003c/strong\u003e We’re all in this together.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe men rise only by pulling each other up → not putting each other down like what most do in today’s world.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n","date_published":"2023-01-02T16:00:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/photo-nic-khhukoxqo4k-unsplash.jpg","tags":["male advantage","1stman","masculinity","growth","self improvement"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/outlier-male-series-mind-body-and-spirit/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/outlier-male-series-mind-body-and-spirit/","title":"Outlier Male Series: Mind, Body and Spirit","summary":"Hello Guys,\nNow here\u0026rsquo;s the game plan.\nWe\u0026rsquo;ll focus primarily on Mind, Body and Spirit and our secondary focus will be Wealth/Riches. Now I do remember telling you that we should focus on 3 things only but things change.\nI\u0026rsquo;m going to add URGENCY.\nGroup link: The OUTLIER MALE Telegram group.\nMind Here\u0026rsquo;s a simple guideline to follow.\n1. Learn Digital Marketable Skills Digital marketable skills are skills you can use to make money ONLINE. Everything is going online. You need to align yourself with the massive paradigm shift that\u0026rsquo;s going on\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHello Guys,\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNow here\u0026rsquo;s the game plan.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe\u0026rsquo;ll focus primarily on Mind, Body and Spirit and our secondary focus will be Wealth/Riches. Now I do remember telling you that we should focus on 3 things only but things change.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;m going to add URGENCY.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGroup link: \u003ca href=\"https://t.me/+rbD6JMGpnH5kYjg0\"\u003eThe OUTLIER MALE Telegram group\u003c/a\u003e.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"mind\"\u003eMind\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere\u0026rsquo;s a simple guideline to follow.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"1-learn-digital-marketable-skills\"\u003e1. Learn Digital Marketable Skills\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDigital marketable skills are skills you can use to make money ONLINE. Everything is going online. You need to align yourself with the massive paradigm shift that\u0026rsquo;s going on\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are some. Pick your poison(skills). Now I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you pick more than 1.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCopywriting\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUI/UX Design\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWeb Development\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSearch Engine Optimization\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSocial Media Marketing\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSearch Engine Ads(Google)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGraphic Design\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBlockchain Development\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSocial Media Management\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWriting\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eData Science\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCloud Computing\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eArtificial Intelligence, Deep Learning, and Machine Learning\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAnimation\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVideo Editing(both short form and long form)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEmail Marketing(+cold emailing)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAffiliate Marketing\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eApp/Software Development\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIllustration + NFT Art + Digital Art\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWeb Scraping\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHacking\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVideo/Audio Production\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSystem Automation\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese are the ones I know off the top of my head. If you have another one, feel free to post it below in the comments.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"the-key-to-this-is-to-reach-10000-hours-of-mastery-with-the-skill-youve-chosen-or-with-this-whole-outlier-male-journey-thats-when-youll-start-to-see-the-progress-youve-made\"\u003eThe key to this is to reach 10,000 hours of mastery with the skill you\u0026rsquo;ve chosen or with this whole outlier male journey, that\u0026rsquo;s when you\u0026rsquo;ll start to see the progress you\u0026rsquo;ve made.\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"2-optimize-your-sleep\"\u003e2. Optimize Your Sleep\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are some tips by \u003ca href=\"https://hubermanlab.com/toolkit-for-sleep/\"\u003eDr. Huberman\u003c/a\u003e:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHigh-quality sleep is critical! Sleep is the foundation of mental health, cognitive health, and performance\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eViewing direct morning sunlight within 30-60 minutes of waking will help you fall asleep and stay asleep at night, and optimize cortisol \u0026amp; adenosine levels\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLayer in multiple levers to be more alert: morning sunlight viewing, increasing body temperature, delaying caffeine, movement/exercise upon waking, light breakfast\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStack the deck to give your body predictable autonomic timing and properly set circadian rhythm to optimize sleep and wakefulness – even if you’re tired, exercise a little (doesn’t have to be intense) and eat a light breakfast, etc.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAvoid overhead fluorescent light as much as possible between 10 pm-4 am – these lights will eliminate melatonin circulating in the brain \u0026amp; body and will hinder the ability to fall and stay asleep (instead, try soft lamps and dim screens as much as possible without straining eyes)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eViewing afternoon sunlight from sunset can help offset some of the negative effects of light viewing in the evening (10 pm-4 am)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTry to maintain a consistent sleep/wake schedule (+/- 1 hour) 7 days a week!\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen all else fails, try this sleep stack cocktail (buy single ingredient supplements so you can use what works, ditch what doesn’t): magnesium threonate (145mg, 30-60 minutes before bed) + theanine (100-400mg, 30-60 minutes before bed) + apigenin (50mg, 30-60 minutes before bed)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSleep apnea can have very damaging effects on sleep and health – train nasal breathing with these methods: (1) use medical tape to tape your mouth shut during sleep; (2) practice nasal breathing only during light exercise/cardio bouts\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemember\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBest nootropic: sleep\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBest stress-relief: sleep\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBest trauma release: sleep\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBest immune booster: sleep\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBest hormone augmentation: sleep\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBest emotional stabilizer: sleep\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"3-build-focus\"\u003e3. Build Focus\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSome more tips from Dr. Huberman:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEpinephrine/adrenaline, acetylcholine, and dopamine work together to facilitate the ability to get focused, direct focus, and stay focused over time\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBinaural beats (40 Hz), white noise, pink noise, and brown noise can enhance focus \u0026amp; more importantly, decrease the amount of time it takes to get into a focused state by ramping up neurochemicals\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBlocking time: use ultradian cycles (90-minute bouts) for intensely focused sessions; assume it will take about 5-10 minutes to ease in and then ramp up; when finished, spend 10-30 minutes to deliberately defocus\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBoth things are true: fasted states and fed states (sufficient glucose but not overly stuffed belly) stimulate neuronal activity – leverage this and try one focused 90-minute bout in the morning (fasted) and another in the afternoon (fed)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTip: leverage the benefits of stress through cold exposure \u003cstrong\u003e–\u003c/strong\u003e try a cold shower (uncomfortably cold but safe to stay in) for 1-5 minutes to increase epinephrine and dopamine in the brain and body to get the body into a focused state – the positive effects of epinephrine last up to an hour or more\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe focus will drift unless you are an experienced meditator – the most important component of meditation is refocusing back to meditation and back to the breath – try 13 minutes per day\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMeditation caveat: focused meditation in the 4 hours prior to bed actually hindered the ability to fall asleep and stay asleep\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUsing visual field to improve focus: set a timer for 30 seconds per day and try to focus on one object; keep adding 5 seconds per day looking directly at the location (be sure to blink!) – you can use this to help onramp into 90-minute focused bout\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAs always, start with behavioral tools (and dialing in sleep), then focus on nutrition, and try supplementation – when all else fails and you’ve consulted a doctor, lean on prescription drugs\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReally sleep-deprived or having trouble focusing? Stack tools – for example, take a cold shower, leverage the visual field, and take alpha-GPC\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"4-read-books\"\u003e4. Read Books\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are some books I suggest you start reading that will build your knowledge in place of the experience you don\u0026rsquo;t have:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThink and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Way of The Superior Man by David Deida\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRational Male Book 1 by Rollo Tomasi\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Male Advantage by Kris Sturmey\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMeditations by Marcus Aurelius\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Art of War by Sun Tzu\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e12 Rules For Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan B. Peterson\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eObesity Code by Dr. Jason Fung\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnscripted by MJ Demarco\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe US Navy Seal Survival Handbook\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Obstacle is The Way by Ryan Holiday\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMeditations by Marcus Aurelius\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Illustrated Art of Manliness: All Books by Brett McKay\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover by Robert Moore \u0026amp; Douglas Gillette\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEstrogeneration by Anthony G. Jay, Ph.D.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEgo is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBushcraft 101 by Dave Canterbury\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e100 Deadly Skills by Clint Emerson, Former Navy Seal\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e4 Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Unplugged Alpha by Richard Cooper\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOutliers by Malcom Gladwell\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e$100mOffers by Alex Hormozi\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese books are great and I suggest you read 10 pages a day and slowly build up to 20. These contain the experiences of more than 1,000 men.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHaving their knowledge and being able to learn from their experiences is a blessing.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d recommend you start with The Male Advantage by Kris Sturmey.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt will show you your worth as a man and how to further build it. I rate it 10/10.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"body\"\u003eBody\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"1-work-outexercise\"\u003e1. Work out/Exercise\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"principles-of-exercise--fitness\"\u003ePrinciples Of Exercise \u0026amp; Fitness\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe basic concepts of fitness are few, but the methods are vast\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe 9 main concepts of training:\u003c/strong\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSkill\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpeed\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePower (function of speed and strength)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStrength\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHypertrophy (growing muscle mass)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMuscular endurance\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAnaerobic power (ability to produce and sustain work in short bursts)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVO2 max (max heart rate)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLong-endurance (30+ minutes with no break)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThere are a handful of things you have to do in order to make all of the main concepts work, but you will not see changes in any domain without progressive overload\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eProgressive overload\u003c/strong\u003e: adaptation happens as a byproduct of stress – you have to push the system\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIf you do the same exercises over time, you will plateau\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA progressive overload could be in the form of adding weights, adding repetitions, increasing frequency, varying complexity of movement\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are the exercises we\u0026rsquo;ll focus on for the first year:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePush-ups or Bench presses\u003c/strong\u003e: These work on the chest and arms. You can try multiple variations to suit you. If you are a beginner try Knee Push-ups\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo begin, the push-up: Lie flat on the ground then push your body up without interfering with the natural curvature of the back.\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin, the bench press: Find the weights, load them, lie on your back, unrack and pull towards your body as far as possible then push up from your body as far as possible and repeat.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cimg src=\"/images/barbell-bench-press.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"/images/close-grip-knee-push-up.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"/images/barbell-bench-press.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSquats\u003c/strong\u003e: This works the legs and the core(only slightly).\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin, stand up straight, then go down to a squat position, and then come up. How deep you go depends on your capacity but ensure you try to go deeper and repeat.\u003cbr\u003e\nTo do this with weight simply depends on what kind of squat you are going to do. I recommend the back squat, whereby you load the weight to the back of your neck(wear thick clothing or place a hollow form then do a squat and repeat.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cimg src=\"/images/barbell-squat.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"/images/barbell-bulgarian-split-squat.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDeadlifts\u003c/strong\u003e: This works the legs, back and core.\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin, find weights, and place them near your feet while standing upright. Reach for the weights without bending your knees too much and bring them up until you are standing upright again then put them down and repeat.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cimg src=\"/images/barbell-deadlift.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"/images/stiff-leg-deadlift.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBent over rows or pull-ups\u003c/strong\u003e: These work on the back and the arms\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin find a strong sturdy vertical pole that is placed slightly above your reach. Hold it with 2 arms and bring your chin over the pole then slowly drop down and repeat.\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin, find weights preferably a barbell or dumbbell, bend over extend your hands toward the floor while holding the weight then bring the weight to your chest then extend them back to the ground, and repeat.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cimg src=\"/images/barbell-bent-over-row.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"/images/pull-up.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMilitary Overhead press\u003c/strong\u003e: This works on the shoulders giving you that large shoulder and making that sexy V that girls love.\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin, find weights then bring them to your chest and push them upwards above your head then bring them down and repeat\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cimg src=\"/images/barbell-military-press.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCalve raises\u003c/strong\u003e: This works on the calves\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin: stand upright and stand on your toes like you are tiptoeing then come back to natural and repeat. You can add weights if desired.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cimg src=\"/images/dumbbell-calf-raise.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePlank\u003c/strong\u003e: This strengthens the core which is responsible for keeping your upper body straight and provides spinal cord support. It does a bunch of other things which I believe you should research\u003cbr\u003e\nTo begin lie flat on the ground then let your elbows and forearms touch the ground then lift and hold that position for a time.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cimg src=\"/images/plank.gif\" alt=\"\"\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eStretch\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo start do 5 x 5 of each. That is 5 repetitions of 5 sets = 25 times if using weights. If using body weight do 5 x 10 = 50 times.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDo this 6 days a week unless you are over 35. If you are over 40 do 5 or 4 times a week.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemember to set a rest day. Eat plenty of proteins and healthy fat. Increase weight, difficulty, intensity, or repetitions every week.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"2-diet\"\u003e2. Diet\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIncrease your protein intake especially from meat, eggs, and fish to maximize protein synthesis:\u003c/strong\u003e consume 1.6-2.6g/kilogram of lean body mass\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThere aren’t noticeable benefits to going beyond this range\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eProtein is also more satiating\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTry fermented foods\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eEat some dark and leafy vegetables\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHave some fruit e.g. berries and watermelon\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLimit refined carbs, sugar, and seed oils\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTry fasting. Fasting puts the body into a mode of autophagy and conservation of resources which are beneficial to health\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTry a ketogenic diet. Benefits of the ketogenic diet:\u003c/strong\u003e influences neurotransmitter levels (particularly glutamate, GABA, adenosine), changes calcium channel regulation, changes gene expression, reduces brain inflammation, improves the health of the gut microbiome, improves insulin resistance and signaling\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMore extreme forms of fasting (24 hours, alternate day, etc.) have more noticeable effects on lean body mass than 16:8 fasting\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eEating 2-3 high-quality protein meals per day will probably make more of a difference on lean body mass than time-restricted eating\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eChoose fasting depending on your goal:\u003c/strong\u003e if you’re a high-level athlete or similar, it’s unlikely you’ll gain much intermittent fasting – if you want to maintain or lose weight and lose body fat, a 16:8 fast is fine to help control calories\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDon\u0026rsquo;t snack\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"spirit\"\u003eSpirit\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis one is simple.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"1-pray-every-day-when-you-wake-up-and-go-to-sleep\"\u003e1. Pray every day when you wake up and go to sleep\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis will help connect you to your Creator and have Him guide you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"2-read-the-biblequran\"\u003e2. Read the Bible/Quran\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis will help know what He expects from you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"3-meditate\"\u003e3. Meditate\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis will help clear your mind and bring peace.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"4-journal\"\u003e4. Journal\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis will help you chain your thoughts to the physical realm.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt will help you plan out life and it will be a reminder of all you haven\u0026rsquo;t achieved.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"5-help-others\"\u003e5. Help others\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis will bring you down to earth and help you stay humble.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThat\u0026rsquo;s it guys that\u0026rsquo;s the plan for this year.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;ll post the next year\u0026rsquo;s plan before December.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor those who haven\u0026rsquo;t joined the group yet.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere\u0026rsquo;s the link. It\u0026rsquo;s a limited-time offer. It will soon be closed and paid.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"wealth\"\u003eWealth\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are in a 9 - 5. Start investing. We are close to a recession. Learn stocks, crypto, REITs, real estate, precious metals, watches, timber, and such.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLearn investing. Keep money aside and do dollar cost averaging(Put some money into investments every month/week/day)\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eInvest a little now then go head-deep in the middle of the recession. Millionaires are made in the middle of recessions just like diamonds are made under pressure or men are made during storms.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLearn investing.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are jobless, spend most of your time learning and testing(practicing) new skills and stack money for investment.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are an Investor, keep going.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you are a business owner/entrepreneur stack money for investments.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSome good investments:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBitcoin\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEthereum\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSmall MarketCap Coins/Tokens\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGaming tokens\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNFT tokens\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGold\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSilver\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDiamond\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHealthcare REITs, Stocks, and ETFs\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEnergy REITS, Stocks, and ETFs\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUtility NFTs\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGovernment Bonds\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGovernment Bills\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUtility REITs, Stocks, and ETFs\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eConsumer staples Stocks, REITs, and ETFs\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003ciframe src=\"https://anchor.fm/stephenajulu/embed/episodes/Outlier-Male-Series-Mind--Body-and-Spirit-e1t0a29\" height=\"102px\" width=\"400px\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"\u003e\u003c/iframe\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGroup link: \u003ca href=\"https://t.me/+rbD6JMGpnH5kYjg0\"\u003eThe OUTLIER MALE Telegram group\u003c/a\u003e.\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2023-01-02T13:00:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/photo-nic-khhukoxqo4k-unsplash.jpg","tags":["lifestyle","masculinity","health","life optimization","self improvement","personal development","men","man","mind","body","spirit","growth","skills","faith"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/20-things-men-must-do-in-2022/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/20-things-men-must-do-in-2022/","title":"20 Things Men Must Do In 2022","summary":"Look, guys, I\u0026rsquo;m in no way or shape better than you. We are just all men here doing our best to improve ourselves and those around us. Constant self-improvement is key.\nWith that said, here are 20 things I believe we(MEN) must do in 2022 to bolster our success. I\u0026rsquo;ll keep it as brief as possible.\nFind mentors Get in shape. “No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” - Socrates Qualify women based on factors besides sex. Make improvements but stay true to who you are. Craft yourself into a leader. Have an impact on the world. Leave a dent. \u0026ldquo;Don\u0026rsquo;t go silently into nothingness without a legacy\u0026rdquo; - Stephen Ajulu Start saving, investing, building, and making more money. \u0026ldquo;Only women and pets are loved unconditionally. Men are loved based on what they can provide\u0026rdquo; - Unknown Talk to more people. Build a social life. Become more social. Lead your friends! Lead them to self-improvement. Make them high-value men. Don\u0026rsquo;t be quick to drop friends if they are low value. Adopt a winner\u0026rsquo;s mindset, a growth mindset, and an abundance mindset. There are enough resources for all of us. Did she dump you? Fine. Build your body, wealth and health then find someone better. Lost your job? Fine. Build your skills and find another one. Be in a state of constant growth. Quit the victim mindset. No one will hand you anything in life and no one cares. You have to make lemonade with the lemons you have been handed. Don\u0026rsquo;t play the victim. Don\u0026rsquo;t be the victim. Buy things. Ownership is key. Cut all the crap about renting. Buy property. Do what scares you. The wise men say, \u0026ldquo;Everything you want is on the other side of fear\u0026rdquo; Stop putting women on a pedestal and as your focus. You are the prize. Focus on building yourself and your legacy. A woman must never be your first, second, and even third focus unless she\u0026rsquo;s your wife. Women are naturally hypergamous. Learn this and red pill yourself. But don\u0026rsquo;t hate them for it. It\u0026rsquo;s their nature. Even in nature, females choose the man who can provide the most resources and protection. So instead of complaining and hating them, be the man who can provide the most resources and protection. This goes in tandem with no 7. Become self-sufficient. Learn to be independent. Someone caused your business to go down? Be the kind of man who can start another one. Lost your job? Learn a skill then monetize. Never depend on anyone or anything. Become self-sufficient. Identify your beliefs and stick to them Inspire others. Look life is hard as it is. We all have different challenges but the fact remains, everyone has challenges. Be the kind of man who lifts people up. The one who inspires them to be more. Take everything in life with a grain of salt. Your life is 100% your responsibility. So act like it. Bonus: Identify the things you value then protect them. I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you list the 5 things you value most. Mine is 1. My God, 2. My Mission/Purpose/Self, 3. My Family, 4. My Assets, and 5. You Guys + My Closest Friends. Bonus: Become dangerous. Learn how to hurt others but don\u0026rsquo;t hurt others unless ABSOLUTELY necessary. \u0026ldquo;A harmless man is not a virtuous man. It is the dangerous but civil and disciplined man that is virtuous\u0026rdquo; - Jordan Peterson. \u0026ldquo;Most often than not, it is the weak who pick fights, they are the ones constantly trying to prove their non-existent strength to others by picking on and bullying others. Weakness is loud. Strength is silent. The lion doesn\u0026rsquo;t shout at the top of its lungs \u0026ldquo;I am the king of the jungle!\u0026rdquo;, it simply is. So simply be\u0026rdquo; - Stephen Ajulu. That\u0026rsquo;s it, guys. And please implement. Don\u0026rsquo;t be the guy who gets motivated for a day and then drops out.\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eLook, guys, I\u0026rsquo;m in no way or shape better than you. We are just all men here doing our best to improve ourselves and those around us. Constant self-improvement is key.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWith that said, here are 20 things I believe we(MEN) must do in 2022 to bolster our success. I\u0026rsquo;ll keep it as brief as possible.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFind mentors\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGet in shape. “No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” - Socrates\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eQualify women based on factors besides sex.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMake improvements but stay true to who you are.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCraft yourself into a leader.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave an impact on the world. Leave a dent. \u0026ldquo;Don\u0026rsquo;t go silently into nothingness without a legacy\u0026rdquo; - Stephen Ajulu\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStart saving, investing, building, and making more money. \u0026ldquo;Only women and pets are loved unconditionally. Men are loved based on what they can provide\u0026rdquo; - Unknown\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTalk to more people. Build a social life. Become more social.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLead your friends! Lead them to self-improvement. Make them high-value men. Don\u0026rsquo;t be quick to drop friends if they are low value.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAdopt a winner\u0026rsquo;s mindset, a growth mindset, and an abundance mindset. There are enough resources for all of us. Did she dump you? Fine. Build your body, wealth and health then find someone better. Lost your job? Fine. Build your skills and find another one. Be in a state of constant growth.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eQuit the victim mindset. No one will hand you anything in life and no one cares. You have to make lemonade with the lemons you have been handed. Don\u0026rsquo;t play the victim. Don\u0026rsquo;t be the victim.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBuy things. Ownership is key. Cut all the crap about renting. Buy property.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo what scares you. The wise men say, \u0026ldquo;Everything you want is on the other side of fear\u0026rdquo;\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStop putting women on a pedestal and as your focus. You are the prize. Focus on building yourself and your legacy. A woman must never be your first, second, and even third focus unless she\u0026rsquo;s your wife.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWomen are naturally hypergamous. Learn this and red pill yourself. But don\u0026rsquo;t hate them for it. It\u0026rsquo;s their nature. Even in nature, females choose the man who can provide the most resources and protection. So instead of complaining and hating them, be the man who can provide the most resources and protection. This goes in tandem with no 7.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBecome self-sufficient. Learn to be independent. Someone caused your business to go down? Be the kind of man who can start another one. Lost your job? Learn a skill then monetize. Never depend on anyone or anything. Become self-sufficient.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIdentify your beliefs and stick to them\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInspire others. Look life is hard as it is. We all have different challenges but the fact remains, everyone has challenges. Be the kind of man who lifts people up. The one who inspires them to be more.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTake everything in life with a grain of salt.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour life is 100% your responsibility. So act like it.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBonus: Identify the things you value then protect them. I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you list the 5 things you value most. Mine is 1. My God, 2. My Mission/Purpose/Self, 3. My Family, 4. My Assets, and 5. You Guys + My Closest Friends.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBonus: Become dangerous. Learn how to hurt others but don\u0026rsquo;t hurt others unless ABSOLUTELY necessary. \u0026ldquo;A harmless man is not a virtuous man. It is the dangerous but civil and disciplined man that is virtuous\u0026rdquo; - Jordan Peterson. \u0026ldquo;Most often than not, it is the weak who pick fights, they are the ones constantly trying to prove their non-existent strength to others by picking on and bullying others. Weakness is loud. Strength is silent. The lion doesn\u0026rsquo;t shout at the top of its lungs \u0026ldquo;I am the king of the jungle!\u0026rdquo;, it simply is. So simply be\u0026rdquo; - Stephen Ajulu.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThat\u0026rsquo;s it, guys. And please implement. Don\u0026rsquo;t be the guy who gets motivated for a day and then drops out.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe world needs you. It needs your ideas. It needs your energy. It needs you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo go out there. Work on yourself. Protect the things you value. Leave your mark in this world. Love and be kind. Give when you can. Seek fulfillment over happiness. Be responsible. Stay Frosty. Greatness is coming!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;ll soon be posting resources for men who want to be more real, more masculine, and 1% better every day. So stay tuned. Subscribe to my newsletter.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWishing you a happy and prosperous new year.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLet\u0026rsquo;s go conquer!\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-12-27T15:43:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/imageedit_27_9513163132.jpg","tags":["men","self improvement","self mastery","masculinity","man","manhood","masculine","growth","success"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-importance-of-creating-a-masculine-character/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-importance-of-creating-a-masculine-character/","title":"The Importance of Building Your Masculinity","summary":"Hi guys, how are you doing?\nNB: This article will trigger a lot of people. Continue reading if you would like to learn why and create your masculine character.\nI\u0026rsquo;d like to begin by first defining masculinity. What it is and what it\u0026rsquo;s not according to me. Then I\u0026rsquo;ll cover the traits and characteristics you need to integrate and work on.\nI believe greatness is coming to all the people who read this and understand it. Feel free to share your thoughts down below in the comments.\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHi guys, how are you doing?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNB:\u003c/strong\u003e This article will trigger a lot of people. Continue reading if you would like to learn why and create your masculine character.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d like to begin by first defining masculinity. What it is and what it\u0026rsquo;s not according to me. Then I\u0026rsquo;ll cover the traits and characteristics you need to integrate and work on.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI believe greatness is coming to all the people who read this and understand it. Feel free to share your thoughts down below in the comments.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"masculinity\"\u003eMasculinity\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMasculinity is the lost art of being a strong, confident, intelligent, skillful, and manly character that is focused on the pursuit of an ultimate goal bigger than himself, women, and those around him.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMasculinity is not toxic, aggressive, and overly sexual. On the contrary, it\u0026rsquo;s a man who is in constant pursuit of things far greater than himself. Constantly improving himself and those around him. A true high-value man who is solving problems and creating things for the benefit of himself and others.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA man is destined to be a protector and provider. He understands his roles and follows the ways of his ancestors.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn this age of betas, white knights, simps, and soy boys, a masculine man sets himself apart by being a strong, charismatic, and useful member of society.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTell me who are the first people to respond and react in times of danger? Who makes up the large percentage of protectors? Who provides the most? Who are the most willing to lay down their lives for others?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNever before has masculinity been this demonized. By no means am I saying that Toxic Masculinity doesn\u0026rsquo;t exist, what I am saying is that a large percentage of so-called feminists have bundled up good/necessary masculinity and toxic masculinity into one thing. Toxic Feminism has made attacking men/masculinity its sole purpose and they are winning! How do I know this? Look at the crime rates. Look at the no of fatherless children. These are the consequences of the erosion of masculinity.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut I like a quote by \u003ca href=\"https://twitter.com/PathToManliness\"\u003eThe Path To Manliness\u003c/a\u003e.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"when-the-barbarians-are-at-the-gates-suddenly-masculinity-is-no-longer-toxic\"\u003e\u0026ldquo;When the barbarians are at the gates, suddenly masculinity is no longer toxic.\u0026rdquo;\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"how-to-create-your-own-masculine-character-and-live-up-to-it\"\u003eHow to create your own masculine character and live up to it\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo create one, we first must know the characteristics of one. Here are a few examples. Remember we are working towards becoming a truly high-value man, not faking it. Go against the grain. Pick some characteristics, give yourself a time frame or a deadline then put in the work.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePhysically, Emotionally and Mentally Strong\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIntelligent and Highly Skilled\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCalm, Collected, and Stoic\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHaving the ability to exercise extreme violence but remaining virtuous - A controlled monster. The true meaning of morality, virtue, and humility. \u003ca href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QQ5oqgJWJyw\"\u003eDefinition first coined by Jordan Peterson\u003c/a\u003e. A harmless person is not a virtuous person. When a harmless person tastes power, they cease to be virtuous as they become drunk with it and begin showing their true colors.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSelf Control\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA Risk Taker\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKind and Generous\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlayful and Charismatic\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAssertive and Dominant but not arrogant\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIndependence\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLeadership\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAmbition\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIntegrity\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSocialized\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWell Dressed and Groomed\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRespectful\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDangerous\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFocused\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSexual - At the appropriate time\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMysterious\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCapable of transmuting sexual energy instead of spilling it carelessly\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese are but a few examples. To create your own hyper-masculine character, I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you pick 5 then work on them.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePhysical Strength and Virtue are a must. They ensure you are capable of protecting the things that are important to you without being a bully/brute. You don\u0026rsquo;t want to be a brute who bullies people in an attempt to garner respect. You want to be a protector. One who is naturally respected.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSkillfulness ensures you are capable of providing for your family.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMake sure that whatever you pick leads you down a path that will guarantee you can provide and protect. As these 2 things are key.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI am no different from beta males. Growing up mostly fatherless is hurting society.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut I am changing things, I am on the journey of becoming a masculine and high-value man. You have to remember it starts with you. Be the change you want to see in society. Don\u0026rsquo;t just spill your seed carelessly. The world doesn\u0026rsquo;t need more fatherless children, soy boys, betas, simps, and white knights.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt needs masculine role models willing to take the lead.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI am working on myself, constantly trying to put to death the less desirable traits within me. It\u0026rsquo;s a battle. But it\u0026rsquo;s one that I know I can win.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1\u003e\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"what-about-you\"\u003eWhat about you?\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d like to end with a quote: \u0026ldquo;Strong Men and Feminine Women Create Good Times, Good Times Create Soft Men and Masculine Women, Soft Men and Masculine Women Create Hard Times, and Repeat\u0026rdquo; It\u0026rsquo;s a modification of the original quote. Gender roles were created for a purpose. Find out what that purpose is and integrate. We are experiencing gender role reversal and it\u0026rsquo;s causing damage.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eShare your thoughts in the comments and if this triggered you, I\u0026rsquo;d like to know why, so do due diligence.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd of course. Do due diligence, raise your testosterone, and research. I\u0026rsquo;ve written a plethora of \u003ca href=\"https://stephenajulu.com/blog\"\u003earticles\u003c/a\u003e that can help you in your journey. Go read them.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHave a great day!\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-12-11T09:51:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/simone-pellegrini-l3qg_oblut0-unsplash.jpg","tags":["masculinity","masculine","manhood","man","men","guys","life","self improvement","Personal development","masculinity saturday"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/5-things-every-man-in-his-20s-should-do/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/5-things-every-man-in-his-20s-should-do/","title":"5 Things Every Man In His 20s Should Do","summary":"Hi men!\nHere are 5 things you should do in order to set up your life for success and level up.\n1. Workout and build your body It goes without saying that self mastery is key to growth.\nSo workout, build your body and be physically capable. This alone will separate you from 80% of the planet. Don\u0026rsquo;t become comfortable being unfit and fat.\nAdopt a growth mindset. Yes, you might be fat now but as long as you put in consistent effort, i can assure you that by the end of a month, the gains you\u0026rsquo;ll be seeing will shoot up your testosterone and confidence.\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHi men!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are 5 things you should do in order to set up your life for success and level up.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"1-workout-and-build-your-body\"\u003e1. Workout and build your body\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt goes without saying that self mastery is key to growth.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo workout, build your body and be physically capable. This alone will separate you from 80% of the planet. Don\u0026rsquo;t become comfortable being unfit and fat.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAdopt a growth mindset. Yes, you might be fat now but as long as you put in consistent effort, i can assure you that by the end of a month, the gains you\u0026rsquo;ll be seeing will shoot up your testosterone and confidence.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePlus, you\u0026rsquo;ll be better capable of attracting that girl you think is beyond your level. Think about it!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"2-chase-success-and-fulfillment-over-women\"\u003e2. Chase success and fulfillment over women\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLook, these girls aren\u0026rsquo;t going anywhere. Plus a recent study found that they want the top 10% of men. So instead of chasing a girl who might dump you for that rich bad boy. Become one yourself. Grind and hustle.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBuild a set of marketable skills or better yet work on your own business. Build your dreams. You won\u0026rsquo;t regret it. Plus girls will be all over you once you succeed.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo work on yourself. Work on your dreams.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNow, I\u0026rsquo;m not saying \u0026ldquo;Stop looking, stop dating\u0026rdquo;. What I\u0026rsquo;m saying is let success be your primary goal.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMy advice is this. Write down 5 things that are most valuable to you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are mine, if you\u0026rsquo;d like an example.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGod\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFamily\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWealth and Health(myself)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFriends\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWomen\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMost of these women are hypergamous. So stop chasing them all over the place and start working primarily on you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eChris Brown wasn\u0026rsquo;t kidding, \u0026ldquo;These hoes ain\u0026rsquo;t loyal\u0026rdquo;.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAdvice: if you\u0026rsquo;ve got a girl and a kid, please do a DNA test. In a recent study, it was found that 9 out of 25 men are raising children that are not their own. To make this worse, most of these women knew the kid wasn\u0026rsquo;t there\u0026rsquo;s but because they needed a beta/simp who would provide, they lied. So before adding your name on the birth certificate, before marrying. If you have a kid with a girl. GET A DNA TEST! If you found out the kid isn\u0026rsquo;t yours, i suggest you leave but that decision is up to you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd you better not forget to INVEST your money. I post articles for beginners on how to invest. There\u0026rsquo;s cryptocurrencies, stocks, NFTs, ETFs, bonds, bills, real estate and more. Pick some, research and invest. Simple\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"3-seek-god\"\u003e3. Seek God\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNow, the only reason this is no 3 is because, i didn\u0026rsquo;t structure this list but men you need to seek God. You need spirituality.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"4-createjoin-a-tribe\"\u003e4. Create/join a tribe\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGuys, no man is an island, no man stands alone. I have to admit that i am having issues with this, seeing that i am an introvert with social anxiety but i am doing my best. So should you. And hey don\u0026rsquo;t just join any group. Join a tribe of Like Minded Individuals. Ask yourself this \u0026ldquo;Where do i see myself in the next 10/20 years?\u0026rdquo; then join a tribe of people with a similar answer or similar values or even better join a tribe of people who are already where you want to be.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"5-never-stop-learning\"\u003e5. Never stop learning\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLearn more about:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBusiness\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRedpill\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMasculinity\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInvesting\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMarketable skills\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFemale psychology\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMoney and Wealth\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNutrition for men(meat and eggs)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSolving problems\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNew technologies\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere\u0026rsquo;s so much you can learn and do. Especially in this information age. Just do it.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere comes a bonus:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"6-journalwrite\"\u003e6. Journal/Write\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePlease men, keep a journal. All great men, men of renowned wrote journals. Write down your thoughts in the morning and evening.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe mental clarity this will give you will leave you astonished wondering why you didn\u0026rsquo;t start early.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"what-is-journaling-you\"\u003eWhat is journaling you?\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eJournaling is the writing down of thoughts for present reflection and future reference.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eJournaling allows you to organize your thoughts, document your goals, make life decisions, and even heal from past traumas. It’s truly a powerful tool that when incorporated into your regular routine can provide numerous benefits.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"why-should-men-journal\"\u003eWhy Should Men Journal?\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAlthough many men may scoff at the thought of keeping a journal, many of the greatest visionaries in history had journals: Leonardo Da Vinci, Albert Einstein, Nikola Tesla, and Ernest Hemingway to name a few. Not to mention the numerous benefits from journaling are well-documented.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"benefits-of-journaling\"\u003eBenefits of journaling\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere are some benefits of journaling\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eManages stress\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGives you immortality\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAllows introspection and reflection\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBoosts your mood\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eImproves memory\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReduces symptoms of anxiety and depression\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnyway guys, that\u0026rsquo;s it for now. For those who learn and implement this, \u0026ldquo;Greatness is coming\u0026rdquo;.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBefore i go:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMen in their 20s should also dress well, smell good and wear cool shades. That’s why today I’m hooking you up with a 10% discount on quality clothing, fragrance, and eyewear.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://www.esntls.co/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eVisit ESNTLS for top-notch discounted clothing that makes you look great and feel even greater!\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://santaluciafragrance.com/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eVisit Santa Lucia Fragrance for top-notch discounted perfumes that make you smell great!\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://www.jadeblack.co/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eVisit JadeBlack for top-note discounted sunglasses and glasses that draw out your game face perfectly!\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAll the men who use my link get 10% off all their products + free shipping(if you live in the US). Bookmark the links for future purchases because I can assure you that you will love these products.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHave a great day.\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-11-22T05:26:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/matheus-ferrero-tkrrvwxjb_8.jpg","tags":["Masculinity","self improvement","self mastery","Growth","Masculine","Man","manhood","Men","Level up","Personal development"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-4-archetypes-men-should-master/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-4-archetypes-men-should-master/","title":"The 4 Archetypes Men Should Master","summary":"#1. King The King energy is primal in all men.\nIn old civilizations and traditions, the king provides order, fertility, and blessing.\nIt bears the same relationship to the other three mature masculine potentials as the Divine Child does to the other three immature masculine energies.\nIt comes first in importance, and it underlies and includes the rest of the archetypes in perfect balance. The good and generative King is also a good Warrior, a positive Magician, and a great Lover. And yet, with most of us, the King comes on line last.\nWe could say that the King is the Divine Child, but seasoned and complex, wise. and in a sense as selfless as the Divine Child is cosmically self-involved.\n","content_html":"\u003ch1 id=\"1-king\"\u003e#1. King\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe King energy is primal in all men.\u003cbr\u003e\nIn old civilizations and traditions, the king provides order, fertility, and blessing.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt bears the same relationship to the other three mature masculine potentials as the Divine Child does to the other three immature masculine energies.\u003cbr\u003e\nIt comes first in importance, and it underlies and includes the rest of the archetypes in perfect balance. The good and generative King is also a good Warrior, a positive Magician, and a great Lover. And yet, with most of us, the King comes on line last.\u003cbr\u003e\nWe could say that the King is the Divine Child, but seasoned and complex, wise. and in a sense as selfless as the Divine Child is cosmically self-involved.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe king is:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCentered\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDecisive\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA man of integrity\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA protector of his realm\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA provider\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is how the authors describe the king:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt stabilizes chaotic emotion and out-of-control behaviors. It gives stability and centeredness. It brings calm. And in its “fertilizing” and centeredness, it mediates vitality, life-force, and joy. It brings maintenance and balance. It defends our own sense of inner order, our own integrity of being and of purpose. our own central calmness about who we are, and our essential unassailability and certainty in our masculine identity. It looks upon the world with a firm but kindly eye. It sees others in all their weakness and in all their talent and worth. It honors them and promotes them. It guides them and nurtures them toward their own fullness of being. It is not envious. because it is secure, as the King, in its own worth. It rewards and encourages creativity in us and in others.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe King also embodies all the other masculine archetypes:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn its central incorporation and expression of the Warrior, it represents aggressive might when that is what is needed when order is threatened. It also has the power of inner authority. It knows and discerns (its Magician aspect) and acts out of this deep knowingness. It delights in us and in others (its Lover aspect) and shows this delight through words of authentic praise and concrete actions that enhance our lives.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"the-king-shadows\"\u003eThe King Shadows\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTyrant: He is only destructive. He does so because. as we’ve said. he lacks inner structure. and he is afraid and terrified of his own hidden weakness and his underlying lack of potency.\u003cbr\u003e\nHe is very sensitive to criticism and, though putting on a threatening front, will at the slightest remark feel weak and deflated. He won’t show you this, however. What you will see, unless you know what to look for. is rage. But hidden behind the rage is a sense of worthlessness, of vulnerability and weakness.\u003cbr\u003e\nThe tyrant hates. fears, and envies new life, because he feels the new life is a threat to his slim grasp on his own kingship.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWeakling: The hidden presence of this passive pole explains the hunger for mirroring -for “Adore me!” “Worship me!” “See how important I am!”- that we feel from so many of our superiors and friends. This explains their angry outbursts and their attacks on those they see as weak that is those upon whom they project their own inner Weakling.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGeneral Patton was a closeted weakling, say the authors.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWatch this scene:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eInstead of reacting with the compassion of the life-giving King who knows what his men are up against, Patton flies into a rage and slaps the soldier across the face, calls him a coward. humiliates and abuses him, and sends him from the hospital to the from lines.\u003cbr\u003e\nThough he does not know it. what he has seen is the face of his own hidden fear and weakness projected onto another. He has glimpsed the Weakling within.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd again, say the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe heroic General Patton.\u003cbr\u003e\nThough immensely imaginative, creative, and inspiring to his troops, at\u003cbr\u003e\nleast at times sabotaged himself with his risk-taking, his immature\u003cbr\u003e\ncompetition with the British General Montgomery, and his insightful\u003cbr\u003e\nbut boyishly brash remarks.\u003cbr\u003e\nRather than being assigned a mission for which his true talent qualified him {to head the Allied invasion of Europe, for instance). He was sidelined precisely because he was a hero and not fully a warrior.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"my-note-eye-opening-stay-away-from-gratuitous-meanness\"\u003eMy Note: Eye-opening, stay away from gratuitous meanness\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis was truly deep and insightful.\u003cbr\u003e\nBe careful of men who are too mean and aggressive towards other people’s faults and weaknesses. Not only are they potentially hiding insecurities, but they are often poor leaders.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI often felt the same about general Mattis, who always loved to \u003cem\u003esound\u003c/em\u003e tough:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eJames Mattis\u003c/strong\u003e: When you men get home and face an anti-war protester (..) shake his hand. Then, wink at his girlfriend because she knows she’s dating a pussy\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"2-warrior\"\u003e#2. Warrior\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe warrior:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIs efficient because he realizes\u003c/strong\u003e \u003ca href=\"http://thepowermoves.com/how-to-leverage-death-for-life/\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ehow fragile and mortal he is\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn addition to training, what enables a Warrior to reach clarity of thought is living with the awareness of his own imminent death. The Warrior knows the shortness of life and how fragile it is. A man under the guidance of the Warrior knows how few his days are. Rather than depressing him, this awareness leads him to an outpouring of life-force and to an intense experience of his life that is unknown to others. Every act counts.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAlso read:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://thepowermoves.com/how-to-leverage-death-for-life/\"\u003eThe Power of Accepting \u0026amp; Leveraging Death to Live Fully\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe warrior raises above pettiness\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe true Warrior rises above pettiness.\u003cbr\u003e\nSays the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLiving in the light of lofty ideals and spiritual realities such as God. democracy, communism, freedom, or any other worthy transpersonal commitment so alters the focus of a man’s life that petty squabbling and personal. Ego concerns no longer matter much.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe warrior can be a destructive force. But it’s a destructive force for good\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSay the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Warrior is often a destroyer.\u003cbr\u003e\nBut the positive Warrior energy destroys only what needs to be destroyed in order for something new and fresh, more alive and more virtuous to appear. Many things in our world need destroying-corruption, tyranny, oppression, despotic systems of government, corporate hierarchies may get in the way of the company’s performance (…).\u003cbr\u003e\nAnd in the very act of destroying, often the Warrior energy\u003cbr\u003e\nis building new civilizations, new commercial, artistic, and spiritual ventures for humankind.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFor the warrior, women are just there to fulfill sexual needs\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhen the warrior is disconnected from the lover, women are just for fun, or to fulfill sexual needs.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEven the positive Warrior (the Warrior in his fullness) can be disastrous. As we have said the Warrior in his pure form is emotionally detached; his transpersonal loyalty radically relativizes the importance of his human relationships. This is apparent in the Warrior’s attitude toward sex.\u003cbr\u003e\nWomen, for the Warrior, are not for relating to, for being intimate with.\u003cbr\u003e\nThey are for fun.\u003cbr\u003e\n(…)\u003cbr\u003e\nEven if he has a family, the human warrior’s devotion to other duties often leads to marital problems.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBusinesspeople consumed by work are also warriors\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSay the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis same thing occurs outside the military as well.\u003cbr\u003e\nIn the relationships and families of men whose professions call for a great deal of transpersonal devotion and long hours of disciplined work and self-sacrifice. Ministers, doctors. lawyers, politicians, dedicated salespeople, and many others often have emotionally devastating personal lives.\u003cbr\u003e\nTheir wives and girlfriends often feel alienated and rejected, competing hopelessly with the man’s “true love,” his work.\u003cbr\u003e\nIn addition these men, true to the Warrior’s sexual attitudes, often have affairs with their nurses, staffers, receptionists, secretaries, and other women who admire from a safe (sometimes not so safe) distance their masculine Warrior proficiency and dedication.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"my-note-great-analysis-but-flawed-on-the-sexual-side\"\u003eMy Note: Great analysis, but flawed on the sexual side\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eVery, very good analysis.\u003cbr\u003e\nYet, it’s also flawed when it comes to sexual dynamics. The authors fail to realize that those men developed a drive to hard work \u003cem\u003ebecause\u003c/em\u003e of the more sexual opportunities that the fruit of their work awarded them with.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBut our society isn’t very welcoming of warriors\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSay the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe live in a time when people are generally uncomfortable with the\u003cbr\u003e\nWarrior form of masculine energy, and for good reasons.\u003cbr\u003e\nWomen especially are uncomfortable with it since they have often\u003cbr\u003e\nbeen the most direct victims of its shadow expressions.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"the-warrior-shadows\"\u003eThe Warrior Shadows\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWarriors that are \u003cem\u003ecompletely\u003c/em\u003e unemotional or only destructive are poor and underdeveloped archetypes of masculinity.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe movie “The Great Santini” is an example of the shadow Warrior with too much aggression and too little emotional depth:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSay the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMost of his remarks and behavior toward his wife and children are depreciating, critica, commanding, and designed to put distance between him and the family members, who keep trying to relate to him lovingly.\u003cbr\u003e\nThe destructiveness of this way of “relating” eventually becomes so obvious to everyone, especially to the older son, that there can no longer be any hiding from the fact that \u003cstrong\u003eSantini’s sometimes violent behavior results from his own inability to be tender and genuinely intimate.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMany young men these days admire the wrong kind of warriors. Say the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA contemporary image of the Warrior turned passionless killing machine is, of course, Darth Vader from the Star Wars saga. It is alarming how many boys and adolescents identify with him. In this same connection, it is also alarming how many of these young men become members of survivalist and neo-Nazi groups.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Warrior as a destructive can overcome us when we are frightened or very angry, like in this scene from Apocalypse Now reference by the authors themselves:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd that’s the importance of inner mental control to be an effective and value-adding warrior.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSadist: Though detachment in itself is not necessarily bad. as we’ve said. it does leave the door open to the “demon” of cruelty. Because he is so vulnerable in this area of relatedness. the man under the influence of the Warrior needs urgently to have his mind and his feelings under control-not repressed. but under control. Otherwise. cruelty will sneak in the back door when he’s not looking.\u003cbr\u003e\nFar too often We see this same kind of sadism displayed in boot camp in the name of supposedly necessary “ritual humiliation” designed to\u003cbr\u003e\ndeprive recruits of their individuality and put them under the power of a transpersonal devotion. Far too often, the drill sergeant’s motives are the motives of the sadistic Warrior seeking to humiliate and violate the men put in his charge.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMasochist: the masochist is the “pushover” and “whipped puppy” that lies just beneath the Sadist’s rageful displays. The Masochist\u003cbr\u003e\nprojects Warrior energy onto others and causes a man to experience\u003cbr\u003e\nhimself as powerless. The man possessed by the Masochist is unable to\u003cbr\u003e\ndefend himself psychologically; he allows others (and himself) to push\u003cbr\u003e\nhim around.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinally, say the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf we are accessing the Warrior appropriately, we will be energetic, decisive, courageous, enduring, persevering, and loyal to some greater good beyond our own personal gain.\u003cbr\u003e\nWe will light good fights in order to make the world a better and more fulfilling place for everyone and everything. Our war making will be for the creation of the new, the just, and the free.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"3-magician\"\u003e#3. Magician\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Magician is the knower, the one with technical expertise and knowledge of all kinds.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWrite the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe energies of the Magician archetype, wherever and whenever we encounter them, are twofold. The Magician is the knower and he is the master of technology. Furthermore, the man who is guided by the power of the Magician is able to fulfill these Magician functions in part by his use of ritual initiatory processes. He is the “ritual elder” who guides the processes of transformation.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is the magician era, in a way, since it’s an era where technology is put to use to control our environment.\u003cbr\u003e\nBut it’s the other form of Magician energy that is in short supply, the one based on psychological and spiritual initiatory processes.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"the-magician-shadows\"\u003eThe Magician Shadows\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDetached manipulator: more \u003ca href=\"http://thepowermoves.com/manipulation/\"\u003edetails on manipulation here\u003c/a\u003e, and \u003ca href=\"http://thepowermoves.com/dark-psychology/\"\u003emore information on dark psychology here\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDenying “innocent” one: using guilt-tripping and \u003ca href=\"http://thepowermoves.com/covert-power-moves/\"\u003ecovert power moves\u003c/a\u003e to control others\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://thepowermoves.com/dark-psychology/\"\u003eDark Psychology: 7 Ways to Manipulate People\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"4-lover\"\u003e#4. Lover\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe lover enjoys life’s pleasure and is comfortable in his own skin and own body.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut there is also something deeper about the lover and about his interconnectedness with the world.\u003cbr\u003e\nSay the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Lover is deeply sensual-sensually aware and sensitive to the physical world in all its splendor. The Lover is related and connected to them all, drawn into them through his sensitivity.\u003cbr\u003e\nHis sensitivity leads him to feel compassionately and empathetically united with them. For the man accessing the Lover. all things are bound to each other.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut he is also a rebel:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe man under the influence of the Lover does not want to stop at socially created boundaries.\u003cbr\u003e\nHe stands against the artificiality of such things. His life is often unconventional and “messy”.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe major religions have always prosecuted the lover, say the authors.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"the-lover-shadows\"\u003eThe Lover Shadows\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAddicted lover: the addictive personality that gets lots in short-term pleasure\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eImpotent lover: feel nothing, live in a muted world, and are chronically depressed\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Lover needs the Warrior in order to be able to act decisively, in order to detach from the web of immobilizing sensuality, and he needs the Magician to help him back off from the ensnaring effect of his emotions.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003ch1 id=\"boyhood-archetypes\"\u003eBoyhood Archetypes\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLike for the masculine energies, the boy energies also overlap and inform each other.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAll the shadow forms of the immature masculine can be carried over adulthood if they are not fixed.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"divine-child\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eDivine child\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe divine child is the future king.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe shadows are:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHigh-chair tyrant: needs to learn that he’s not the center of the universe, and the people and the world do not exist to serve and glorify him\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWeakling prince: the polar opposite of the high-chair tyrant. The Weakling Prince appears to have very little personality, no enthusiasm for life, and very little initiative. This is the boy who needs to be coddled, who dictates to those around him by his silence or his whining and complaining helplessness. He needs to be carried around on a pillow. Everything is too much for him. He rarely joins in children’s games: he has few friends; he doesn’t do well in school; he is frequently hypochondriacal; his slightest wish is his parents’ command; the whole family system revolves around his comfort. He reveals the dishonesty of his helplessness, however, in his daggerlike verbal assaults on his siblings, his biting sarcasm directed against them, and his patent manipulation of their feelings. Because he convinced his parents that he is a helpless victim of life and that others are picking on him, when a controversy arises between himself and a sibling, his parents tend to punish the sibling and excuse him.\u003cbr\u003e\nLater, when he is an “adult” and functioning primarily under the dominance of the Weakling, his repressed grandiosity may explode to the surface, completely raw and primitive, completely unmodulated and very powerful. This is the man who seemed coolheaded and rational and “nice” but who, once he’s been promoted, suddenly becomes “a different person, “a little Hitler”. This is the man for whom the saying “Power corrupts; absolute power corrupts absolutely” is entirely accurate.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"precocious-child\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePrecocious child\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe is the future magician.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Precocious Child manifests in a boy when he is eager to learn, when his mind is quickened. when he wants to share what he is learning with others.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe shadows are:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKnow it all trickster: verbally abusive of others whom he regards as inferior. Carried over into adulthood, the man is cocky and smug, with a superior grin. But he can be good at pricking the bubbles of other big inflated egos. Also see the “\u003ca href=\"http://thepowermoves.com/dictionary-of-power/\"\u003esmart alec\u003c/a\u003e” in the “\u003ca href=\"http://thepowermoves.com/the-7-archetypes-of-dominance/\"\u003earchetypes of dominance\u003c/a\u003e“.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDummy: like the Weakling Prince, lacks personality, vigor, and creativity. He seems unresponsive and dull. He can’t seem to learn his multiplication tables, count change, or tell time. The Dummy’s ineptitude, however. is frequently less than honest.\u003cbr\u003e\nHe may grasp far more than he shows, and his dummy behavior may mask a hidden grandiosity that feels itself too important (as well as too vulnerable) to come into the world. Thus, intimately intertwined with a secret Know-It-All, the Dummy is also a Trickster.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"oedipal-child\"\u003eOedipal Child\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe is hte future lover.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe is passionate and has a sense of wonder and a deep appreciation for connectedness with his inner depths, with others, and with all things.\u003cbr\u003e\nHe is warm. related. and affectionate. He also expresses. through his experience of connectedness to Mother (the primal relationship for almost all of us), the origins of what we can call spirituality. T\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ehis Mother is not his real, mortal mother.\u003cbr\u003e\nShe is bound to disappoint him much of the time in his need for connectedness and perfect or infinite, love and nurturing. Rather, the Mother that he is sensing beyond his own, beyond all the beauty and feeling (what the Greeks called eros) in the things of the world.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe shadows are:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMomma’s boy: tied to Mama’s apron strings.” He causes a boy to fantasize about marrying his mother, about taking her away from his father. in adulthood, he often gets caught up in chasing the beautiful, the poignant, the yearning for union with Mother from one woman to another. He can never be satisfied with a\u003cbr\u003e\nmortal woman, because what he is seeking is the immortal Goddess. Here we have the Don Juan syndrome, The Oedipal Child, inflated beyond mortal dimensions, cannot be bound to one woman.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDreamer: while other children are playing, he may sit on a rock. dreaming his dreams. He accomplishes little and appears withdrawn and depressed. Often his dreams rend to be melancholy, on the one hand, or highly idyllic and ethereal\u003cbr\u003e\non the other.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAll the immature masculine energies are overly tied to Mother, and are deficient in their experience of the nurturing and mature masculine. But especially so is the Oedipal Child.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"the-hero\"\u003eThe Hero\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHe is the future warrior.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe “death” of the Hero in the life of a boy (or a man) really means that he has finally encountered his limitations. He has met the enemy, and the enemy is himself. He has met his own dark side, his very unheroic side.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe “death” of the Hero signals a boy’s or man’s encounter with true humility.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe shadows are:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGrandstander bully: The boy (or man) under the power of the Bully intends to impress others. His strategies are designed to proclaim his superiority and his right to dominate those around him. He claims center stage as his birthright. If ever his claims to special status are challenged, watch the ensuing rageful displays! is not a ream player. He is a loner, a hot-shot junior executive, salesman, revolutionary, stock market manipulator. He’s the soldier who takes unnecessary risks in combat and, if he’s in a position of leadership, requires the same of his men (these are the officers who get “\u003ca href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fragging\"\u003edragged\u003c/a\u003e“).\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCoward: shows an extreme reluctance to stand up for himself in physical confrontations. He will usually run away from a fight. perhaps excusing himself by claiming that it is more “manly” to walk away. But he will feel wretched in spite of his excuses. It is not only physical fights he will avoid. however. He will tend to allow himself to be bullied emotionally and intellectually as well.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSay the authors:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd all three energies give rise to the Hero, which breaks them free of the domination of the “feminine” unconscious and establishes the boy’s identity as a separate individual. The Hero prepares the boy to become a man.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut the Hero still needs to grow and mature:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Hero is, in fact. only an advanced form of Boy psychology-the most advanced form. The peak, actually, of the masculine energies of the boy, the archetype that characterizes the best in the adolescent stage of development. Yet it is immature. and when it is carried over into adulthood as the governing archetype, it blocks men from full maturity.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSource: \u003ca href=\"https://thepowermoves.com/king-warrior-magician-lover/\"\u003eKing, Warrior, Magician, Lover: The 4 Archetypes of Masculinity | TPM (thepowermoves.com)\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePhoto by \u003ca href=\"https://unsplash.com/@lgnwvr?utm_source=unsplash\u0026amp;utm_medium=referral\u0026amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\"\u003eLOGAN WEAVER\u003c/a\u003e on \u003ca href=\"https://unsplash.com/?utm_source=unsplash\u0026amp;utm_medium=referral\u0026amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\"\u003eUnsplash\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-08-10T16:13:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/logan-weaver-zvg7z7zfi1u-unsplash.jpg","tags":["men","masculinity","manhood"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/how-to-level-up-self-improvement-for-men/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/how-to-level-up-self-improvement-for-men/","title":"How To Level Up: Self Improvement For Men","summary":"Hi guys, here\u0026rsquo;s exactly what you need to do to level up as a man physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. If I\u0026rsquo;ve missed something add it to the comments and I\u0026rsquo;ll add it to the post.\nFirst I\u0026rsquo;d like to begin with a quote from Hafeez from The Roommates.\nThe goal of every man should be to constantly improve himself physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.\nEvery man should be in a perpetual state of leveling up/self improvement until he takes his last breath\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHi guys, here\u0026rsquo;s exactly what you need to do to level up as a man physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. If I\u0026rsquo;ve missed something add it to the comments and I\u0026rsquo;ll add it to the post.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFirst I\u0026rsquo;d like to begin with a quote from Hafeez from The Roommates.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe goal of every man should be to constantly improve himself physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEvery man should be in a perpetual state of leveling up/self improvement until he takes his last breath\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA month ago I was stuck, stuck in life, my finances weren\u0026rsquo;t improving, my health was declining, I hated myself and I started to hate the world and even God. I spent most of my days constantly complaining, hating myself, and watching anime. But recently I decided to change, I did my research and began taking steps to \u003cstrong\u003eactively solve my problems\u003c/strong\u003e. Here\u0026rsquo;s how you can do the same.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"1-wake-up-early\"\u003e1. Wake up early\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWaking up early gives you the time to improve yourself. It gives you time to recover the lost time you spent being average/mediocre. Set a time you feel comfortable, don\u0026rsquo;t go cold turkey on this otherwise, you will fail. If you wake up at 9, start waking up at 8:30 am if you wake up at 7, start at 6:30 am, and so on. I was brought up in an African home so I used to wake up at 7 every day from as far as I can remember and on school days I would wake up at 5 am, so I had to shift to waking up at 6:30, now I can wake up at 4:40. Once you can wake up automatically at this time, or you are comfortable deduct another 30 mins do that until you can wake up at 5 or 5:30 am. Now don\u0026rsquo;t stay in bed. The moment the alarm sounds, count to 5 and wake up whether you like it or not. Implement the 5 count rule, where if you don\u0026rsquo;t want to do something that you know is beneficial count to 5 then do it.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"2-benedictionmeditation\"\u003e2. Benediction/Meditation\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d suggest you pray if you are a Christian(like me), Muslim, Hindu, and all other religions. Talk to your God. Read His Word. I believe my God is the greatest, that doesn\u0026rsquo;t mean I want to fight you or hate you just because you worship a different god. If you don\u0026rsquo;t believe in God then I suggest you meditate though it would be better to become a Christian. #nohateordiscrimination\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"3-work-out\"\u003e3. Work out\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTry something simple for 1 month like Pushups(even inclined if you can\u0026rsquo;t do the regular version), squats, and leg raises with your stomach in.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d suggest you do this in 10 increments. Start with 10 on the first day, then 20 on the 2nd then 30, and so on. Keep raising it until you ABSOLUTELY can not finish the workout, don\u0026rsquo;t be afraid to rest in between reps as long as the rest doesn\u0026rsquo;t exceed 3 minutes. If you\u0026rsquo;ve reached your limit where you can no longer do more reps each day. Go back to 10. I started this on 1st, am at 60 reps. Feel free to do more if you\u0026rsquo;d like but make sure you do these 3 every single day, no rest days. Once you are on your 10th day, add calve raises, crunches, and dips. On your 20th incorporate 3 new exercises that hit the group of muscles that squats, pushups, and leg raises hit. On the 30th day add 3 new exercises + bridges. I now do push-ups(chest and arms), leg raises(abs), squats(legs), bridges(but), calve raises(calves), and dips(triceps). Once you reach 50 add planks(50 seconds). 100? you can take a day off every week. Hit 500? take 3 days break. Hit 600? start all over with more complex workouts.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;m no physical fitness expert. These exercises are meant to be simple that you can perform every single day without a gym.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"4-read\"\u003e4. Read\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI suggest reading 10 pages a day. Start with self-help books. I recommended some in a previous post.\u003c/p\u003e\n\n\u003ch5 class=\"additionalreading\"\u003eAlso Read: \u003ca href=\"\"\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/h5\u003e\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\u003cp\u003eYou can even try audiobooks and summaries. There\u0026rsquo;s a guy on YouTube who makes great summaries: One Percent Better, search and try \u0026lsquo;The Rational Male\u0026quot; summary.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"5-define-your-purposepassion-and-visualize\"\u003e5. Define your purpose/passion and visualize\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAll men require a passion or purpose. If you have none, create one out of the things you like and love. Mine is building meaningful products that each tackle a problem in the world. I lost this during the depression I was in but I redefined it.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo write down your purpose/passion then write down what is necessary to achieve it. Dream big bro. Don\u0026rsquo;t limit yourself. Once you have the requirements necessary to reach it, phrase them in 3 months time, 6 months time, a years time, 5 years time, 10 years time, and 30 years time. Here is where you need to be realistic. You can\u0026rsquo;t be a millionaire in 3 months unless you have a millionaire backing you. Work tirelessly to meet these goals.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNow if you have a purpose, visualize yourself accomplished. Think about how great it would feel and what you would have if this purpose is realized. Use your mind\u0026rsquo;s eye and creativity. It might be helpful to build a visualization board that contains photo snippets of how you want to look, what you want to own, and how you want to feel. Use Canva, Spark Post, Photoshop, or even Microsoft Word to build it then print it and stick it somewhere within your field of vision where you can look at it almost all the time before and after sleeping.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eQUICK TIP: DON\u0026rsquo;T LET YOUR GOAL BE MONEY. INSTEAD, FIND SOMETHING THAT CAN PROVIDE VALUE TO OTHERS AT THE SAME TIME BRINGING YOU MONEY AND SATISFACTION.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMoney chasers die without actualizing their dream. Greed will kill you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eP.S: I\u0026rsquo;m not saying that you shouldn\u0026rsquo;t chase money, just don\u0026rsquo;t let it be all you chase.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"6-learn-a-high-value-skill\"\u003e6. Learn a high-value skill\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d suggest signing up for Skillshare, use this link to get 1 free premium month worth of content: \u003ca href=\"https://skl.sh/3wxbE9O\" title=\"https://skl.sh/3wxbE9O\"\u003ehttps://skl.sh/3wxbE9O\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;m currently learning\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFinancial Literacy\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWeb Design with Figma and Webflow\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCopywriting\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFacebook ADS\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGraphic Design\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePython\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRuby on Rails\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGolang\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWeb Development\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"7-eat-clean-and-healthy\"\u003e7. Eat clean and healthy\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs my teacher: Amerix always says:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf it is packed in a box, is fortified, is promoted by marketers, if marketers tell you \u0026ldquo;it is healthy\u0026rdquo;, if your great grandfather doesn\u0026rsquo;t recognize it. DON\u0026rsquo;T EAT IT!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI would suggest you go for \u003cstrong\u003eLow/NO Sugar, No Soy, Moderate Sodium, High Fat, Low Carbs, More Veggies, More Meat, More Water, More Fiber, and Less Frequently\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSugar is very bad and harmful to your health. \u003cstrong\u003ePhase it out.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSoy kills sperms, reduces testosterone, and creates estrogen. \u003cstrong\u003eGo cold turkey.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSodium is an electrolyte, use it moderately but don\u0026rsquo;t remove it completely.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFat is very good for you, it doesn\u0026rsquo;t make you fat and it is used to build testosterone the primary male hormone responsible for spermatogenesis(production of sperm), muscle mass, health, and well-being. Skip \u0026ldquo;vegetable oils/butter/fat\u0026rdquo;, they are unhealthy and harmful. Go for butter, lard, coconut, or olive oil. \u003cstrong\u003eAdd it!\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEat fewer carbs and only eat unrefined that\u0026rsquo;s fibrous e.g. beans, pumpkins, veggies. Minimize starchy unrefined carbs like sweet potatoes and arrowroots. Remove all refined carbs like maize/wheat flour, soda, fruit juices, sugar. \u003cstrong\u003eReduce it.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eVegetables are healthy and good for you. This is a no-brainer. \u003cstrong\u003eIncrease it.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMeat is absolutely important. Go for \u0026ldquo;natural\u0026rdquo; meat or otherwise know as grass-fed meat. Skip sausages and anything you can\u0026rsquo;t make yourself with natural ingredients(avoid soy sauce). \u003cstrong\u003eIncrease it.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWater is a no-brainer. Drink lots but modulate, there\u0026rsquo;s such a thing as water toxicity/intoxication and hyponatremia(low electrolytes due to \u0026ldquo;flashing\u0026rdquo; caused by a water and electrolyte imbalance. If you experience nausea, vomiting, cramps, and fatigue after drinking a lot of water lick some salt.) Remember the body knows how much water it needs. Drink two glasses of water in the morning right after waking up. \u003cstrong\u003eModulate it.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eEat less frequently. Science has found correlations between long life spans and low frequency of eating. I suggest eating once a day, one and a half times a day or employing Intermittent Fasting. On Wednesdays eat supper early at 6 pm then skip meals till Friday at 7 pm, this is called Autophagy. Research! \u003cstrong\u003eReduce Frequency but Eat More.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"8-write\"\u003e8. Write\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWriting has serious mental health benefits even if it\u0026rsquo;s not journaling + if you keep a blog like this, it can eventually grow to become a passive income source. Start by writing things you are grateful for then move to a journal then try blogging or you could do the process in reverse. \u003cstrong\u003eNeed a blog? Contact me\u003c/strong\u003e and I\u0026rsquo;ll build one for you in less than a day. Contact me: \u003ca href=\"mailto:alunje73@gmail.com\"\u003ealunje73@gmail.com\u003c/a\u003e to get a blog at very affordable prices, if you would like it with a custom domain name you may have to pay slightly more but you can always start with something like \u0026ldquo;aramsblog.netlify.app\u0026rdquo;.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"9-get-a-job-or-build-a-business\"\u003e9. Get a job or build a business\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou need to get your finances in order once your mind and body are in order. Find a job or build a business around something you are competent or love. I am building my own business as I look for jobs. if I get blessed with a job, great, if my business succeeds even better, I\u0026rsquo;ve always wanted to employ myself since I was young. I had a business mindset but I wouldn\u0026rsquo;t turn away a job. I\u0026rsquo;d still be happy.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhatever comes first!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"10-find-good-friends\"\u003e10. Find good friends\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI have never been good at making friends, I first had social anxiety before becoming introverted. I don\u0026rsquo;t necessarily like being an introvert but I don\u0026rsquo;t hate it either, the best way I\u0026rsquo;d describe it is a \u0026ldquo;tussle\u0026rdquo; between love and hate. But I am blessed to have friends with equally crazy dreams and we push each other forward. Find a good group of friends specifically male friends who will push you as you push them, who will be there for you when the challenges of life exceed your strength. Find trustworthy ones. Test them. For example, one day scare them with the \u0026ldquo;Hi, kindly help me, I\u0026rsquo;m in jail and I need bail\u0026rdquo; text. Some will genuinely not have enough money to support you others will support you, many will lie or laugh at you. Trust your gut.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"11-trust-your-instinctgut\"\u003e11. Trust your instinct/gut\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLook, many times your gut will tell you that your girl is cheating or something along those lines, many times we let our emotions rule us and dismiss this feeling. Look you are a man, if your gut tells you she\u0026rsquo;s cheating, confront her, go through her phone, remember in exchange for your love, attention, provision, penetration, and leadership she gives you her freedom and love(don\u0026rsquo;t be controlling), go through her phone, questions her, most of the time, it\u0026rsquo;s you brain that notices small cues like her putting a little more work towards her outfit and makeup just to meet the \u0026ldquo;girls\u0026rdquo; or she\u0026rsquo;s restricting sex. These are red flags. Your brain picks them up subconsciously then your gut brings them to the conscious mind. Don\u0026rsquo;t let emotions or even logic rule over you. If your gut brings something up, investigate get to the root cause until it stops or you find out something is wrong. This applies to friends. Your gut isn\u0026rsquo;t always right but it\u0026rsquo;s almost always right.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"12-dress-and-groom-yourself\"\u003e12. Dress and groom yourself\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLook, you can\u0026rsquo;t be a 10 without putting more work into how you look. Go to Pinterest, check up on some men\u0026rsquo;s styles, and pick one of your preferences. Stick to it, if you get bored, go back to Pinterest, choose another. Guys level up your wardrobe. Remove graphic tees in favor of plain ones. If you are above 25 starts including some suits, cardigans, and more adult \u0026ldquo;stuff\u0026rdquo; while still keeping youthful clothing. When you approach 30 start phasing those out slowly. I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you start with essentials, speaking of essentials, try out my sponsor ESNTLS, I have a 10% Off deal with them go pick up a few stuff there and integrate it into your wardrobe. Here\u0026rsquo;s a link with the 10% discount already applied: \u003ca href=\"https://www.esntls.co/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003eESNTLS\u003c/a\u003e, pick up some shades/glasses too: \u003ca href=\"https://www.jadeblack.co/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003eJadeBlack\u003c/a\u003e same 10% off deal. Would you like to smell good too? Try \u003ca href=\"https://santaluciafragrance.com/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003eSanta Lucia Fragrance\u003c/a\u003e, same 10% off. Remember using skin products is not effeminate. But keep them to a minimal ( Hint: if you have more skincare products than your girlfriend, tone it down)\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"13-be-more-assertive\"\u003e13. Be more assertive\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou gotta \u003cstrong\u003estand up for yourself\u003c/strong\u003e man! I suggest you use the \u003cstrong\u003eNo, Yes rule\u003c/strong\u003e where you first say no, then think about it then say Yes. I recently got myself into some huge mess that had me paying some money every single month, I didn\u0026rsquo;t want to but because I wanted to be respectful and \u0026ldquo;nice\u0026rdquo; I agreed, now I regret doing it don\u0026rsquo;t be like me. Say no then yes. Don\u0026rsquo;t be a \u0026ldquo;nice\u0026rdquo; guy. In fact let me give you a secret, have you ever wondered why women go after bad boys? It\u0026rsquo;s because they are assertive, they don\u0026rsquo;t take or make excuses, she failed to show up to your date? Time her out and find other women. She did something wrong to you? Withdraw your attention from her and give it to other women who value it. Kill oneitis bro. Be assertive. You are the prize. \u003cstrong\u003eValue yourself\u003c/strong\u003e. If she cheats, forgive her and move on, don\u0026rsquo;t accept back a hoe, she will walk all over you and cheat again. Value yourself. \u003cstrong\u003eValue your time\u003c/strong\u003e. There\u0026rsquo;s plenty of fish in the sea. Don\u0026rsquo;t waste your time. Don\u0026rsquo;t be a nice guy, if she does something that upsets you, tell her, don\u0026rsquo;t shout just tell her. Bro, you deserve much better. Listen to this fact: If she is withholding sex when you want it, dump her and move on(unless there\u0026rsquo;s a valid reason) because women who love and want you will want to have sex with you. So stand up for yourself and be assertive.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"14-invest-in-yourself\"\u003e14. Invest in yourself\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGuys, think long-term. Start investing in stocks, money market funds, cryptocurrencies, index funds, ETFs, bills, bonds, and yourself. Create an emergency fund capable of taking you 12 months when you have no job or income. Remember women want men with resources. But don\u0026rsquo;t do this for them, do it for you. Guys, I\u0026rsquo;ve posted several articles on investing. Go read them.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe man who can not learn get\u0026rsquo;s left behind.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDon\u0026rsquo;t wait to be spoon-fed. Actively research things that will help you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"15-red-pill-yourself\"\u003e15. Red pill yourself\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNo-brainer. Subscribe to Youtube Red Pillers, Follow on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Learn and Grow.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"16-shower-cold\"\u003e16. Shower? Cold\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe benefits are written all over the internet, research.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"17-amass-knowledge-skills-money-and-intelligence\"\u003e17. Amass Knowledge, Skills, Money, and Intelligence\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNo-brainer no 2. Grow and focus on yourself and your family. To quote the famous Chris Brown quote\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese hoes ain\u0026rsquo;t loyal.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBros, be careful some women only want your money and good genes, others have been found impregnating themselves with semen in a condom. Flush those things down after use.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt won\u0026rsquo;t kill you to stay single and celibate\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs I keep repeating focus on yourself and your family. These hoes ain\u0026rsquo;t loyal. A woman will never love you the way you want to be loved. There are good women out there but remember women are governed by their emotions, one day she\u0026rsquo;s fine and the next she\u0026rsquo;s killing you slowly with poison just to get her hands on your hard-earned money. Focus bro!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRead the books recommended in step one. Take a look at my other articles. Women want an assertive, dominant, resourceful, alpha male who can lead and provide but can still hunker down and settle/commit. Don\u0026rsquo;t be in a hurry to marry. Survey the market, don\u0026rsquo;t lower your standards for anyone.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cblockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eREMEMBER: YOU ARE LIKE FINE WINE, THE OLDER YOU GET THE BETTER YOU TASTE, BUT SHE\u0026rsquo;S LIKE FRUIT JUICE, OVER TIME SHE LOSES HER TASTE.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003c/blockquote\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn conclusion: Girls become women once they are able to bear children, boys become men once they are \u0026ldquo;initiated\u0026rdquo; or once they met certain requirements.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"bonus-18-gain-the-abundance-mindset\"\u003eBonus: 18. Gain the abundance mindset\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGain the abundance mindset whether it is in dating, money, and more.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDid she break up with you? There\u0026rsquo;s plenty of fish in the sea. Did she cheat? Read answer 1. Did you miss a job? Keep looking, that wasn\u0026rsquo;t for you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemember there\u0026rsquo;s enough of everything to go around. Don\u0026rsquo;t settle on one thing or one missed opportunity. Bounce back.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor those in this journey with me: Greatness is Coming! Look Forward. Shoulders Back and Chest Puffed Up!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHave a great day men in the making!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWomen, no offense but all that is written here is scientifically proven. Still, feel free to write your thoughts down below.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNext time I\u0026rsquo;ll list some of the RedPill and Masculinity YouTube channels, Twitter, and Instagram accounts all men should follow/subscribe to.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd that\u0026rsquo;s it, bros. See you next time. Got plenty of articles you can read. Go check them out.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePhoto by \u003ca href=\"https://unsplash.com/@shamimnakhaei?utm_source=unsplash\u0026amp;utm_medium=referral\u0026amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\"\u003eShamim Nakhaei\u003c/a\u003e on \u003ca href=\"https://unsplash.com/s/photos/man-suit?utm_source=unsplash\u0026amp;utm_medium=referral\u0026amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\"\u003eUnsplash\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-08-06T11:59:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/shamim-nakhaei-uzqqjq7w7c0-unsplash.jpg","tags":["masculinity","self improvement","man"]}]}