{"version":"https://jsonfeed.org/version/1.1","title":"Stephen Ajulu","home_page_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/","feed_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/categories/personal-development/feed.json","description":"Hello, I'm Stephen Ajulu, a seasoned multidisciplinary tech professional with over a decade of experience. I build impactful solutions using design, tech, and engineering in the pursuit of impact.","icon":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg","authors":[{"name":"Stephen Ajulu","url":"https://stephenajulu.com","avatar":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg"}],"items":[{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-importance-of-creating-a-masculine-character/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-importance-of-creating-a-masculine-character/","title":"The Importance of Building Your Masculinity","summary":"Hi guys, how are you doing?\nNB: This article will trigger a lot of people. Continue reading if you would like to learn why and create your masculine character.\nI\u0026rsquo;d like to begin by first defining masculinity. What it is and what it\u0026rsquo;s not according to me. Then I\u0026rsquo;ll cover the traits and characteristics you need to integrate and work on.\nI believe greatness is coming to all the people who read this and understand it. Feel free to share your thoughts down below in the comments.\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHi guys, how are you doing?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNB:\u003c/strong\u003e This article will trigger a lot of people. Continue reading if you would like to learn why and create your masculine character.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d like to begin by first defining masculinity. What it is and what it\u0026rsquo;s not according to me. Then I\u0026rsquo;ll cover the traits and characteristics you need to integrate and work on.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI believe greatness is coming to all the people who read this and understand it. Feel free to share your thoughts down below in the comments.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"masculinity\"\u003eMasculinity\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMasculinity is the lost art of being a strong, confident, intelligent, skillful, and manly character that is focused on the pursuit of an ultimate goal bigger than himself, women, and those around him.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMasculinity is not toxic, aggressive, and overly sexual. On the contrary, it\u0026rsquo;s a man who is in constant pursuit of things far greater than himself. Constantly improving himself and those around him. A true high-value man who is solving problems and creating things for the benefit of himself and others.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA man is destined to be a protector and provider. He understands his roles and follows the ways of his ancestors.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn this age of betas, white knights, simps, and soy boys, a masculine man sets himself apart by being a strong, charismatic, and useful member of society.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTell me who are the first people to respond and react in times of danger? Who makes up the large percentage of protectors? Who provides the most? Who are the most willing to lay down their lives for others?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNever before has masculinity been this demonized. By no means am I saying that Toxic Masculinity doesn\u0026rsquo;t exist, what I am saying is that a large percentage of so-called feminists have bundled up good/necessary masculinity and toxic masculinity into one thing. Toxic Feminism has made attacking men/masculinity its sole purpose and they are winning! How do I know this? Look at the crime rates. Look at the no of fatherless children. These are the consequences of the erosion of masculinity.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut I like a quote by \u003ca href=\"https://twitter.com/PathToManliness\"\u003eThe Path To Manliness\u003c/a\u003e.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"when-the-barbarians-are-at-the-gates-suddenly-masculinity-is-no-longer-toxic\"\u003e\u0026ldquo;When the barbarians are at the gates, suddenly masculinity is no longer toxic.\u0026rdquo;\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"how-to-create-your-own-masculine-character-and-live-up-to-it\"\u003eHow to create your own masculine character and live up to it\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTo create one, we first must know the characteristics of one. Here are a few examples. Remember we are working towards becoming a truly high-value man, not faking it. Go against the grain. Pick some characteristics, give yourself a time frame or a deadline then put in the work.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePhysically, Emotionally and Mentally Strong\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIntelligent and Highly Skilled\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCalm, Collected, and Stoic\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHaving the ability to exercise extreme violence but remaining virtuous - A controlled monster. The true meaning of morality, virtue, and humility. \u003ca href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QQ5oqgJWJyw\"\u003eDefinition first coined by Jordan Peterson\u003c/a\u003e. A harmless person is not a virtuous person. When a harmless person tastes power, they cease to be virtuous as they become drunk with it and begin showing their true colors.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSelf Control\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA Risk Taker\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKind and Generous\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePlayful and Charismatic\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAssertive and Dominant but not arrogant\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIndependence\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLeadership\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAmbition\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIntegrity\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSocialized\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWell Dressed and Groomed\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRespectful\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDangerous\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFocused\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSexual - At the appropriate time\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMysterious\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCapable of transmuting sexual energy instead of spilling it carelessly\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese are but a few examples. To create your own hyper-masculine character, I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you pick 5 then work on them.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePhysical Strength and Virtue are a must. They ensure you are capable of protecting the things that are important to you without being a bully/brute. You don\u0026rsquo;t want to be a brute who bullies people in an attempt to garner respect. You want to be a protector. One who is naturally respected.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSkillfulness ensures you are capable of providing for your family.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMake sure that whatever you pick leads you down a path that will guarantee you can provide and protect. As these 2 things are key.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI am no different from beta males. Growing up mostly fatherless is hurting society.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut I am changing things, I am on the journey of becoming a masculine and high-value man. You have to remember it starts with you. Be the change you want to see in society. Don\u0026rsquo;t just spill your seed carelessly. The world doesn\u0026rsquo;t need more fatherless children, soy boys, betas, simps, and white knights.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIt needs masculine role models willing to take the lead.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI am working on myself, constantly trying to put to death the less desirable traits within me. It\u0026rsquo;s a battle. But it\u0026rsquo;s one that I know I can win.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch1\u003e\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"what-about-you\"\u003eWhat about you?\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;d like to end with a quote: \u0026ldquo;Strong Men and Feminine Women Create Good Times, Good Times Create Soft Men and Masculine Women, Soft Men and Masculine Women Create Hard Times, and Repeat\u0026rdquo; It\u0026rsquo;s a modification of the original quote. Gender roles were created for a purpose. Find out what that purpose is and integrate. We are experiencing gender role reversal and it\u0026rsquo;s causing damage.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eShare your thoughts in the comments and if this triggered you, I\u0026rsquo;d like to know why, so do due diligence.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd of course. Do due diligence, raise your testosterone, and research. I\u0026rsquo;ve written a plethora of \u003ca href=\"https://stephenajulu.com/blog\"\u003earticles\u003c/a\u003e that can help you in your journey. Go read them.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHave a great day!\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-12-11T09:51:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/simone-pellegrini-l3qg_oblut0-unsplash.jpg","tags":["masculinity","masculine","manhood","man","men","guys","life","self improvement","Personal development","masculinity saturday"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-new-1-elite/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/the-new-1-elite/","title":"The New 1% Elite","summary":"Here are the new 1% elite members of society that are silently taking over the world. Are you one of them? if not start striving to become one of them.\nThe New 1% are:\nSelf-educated: They know that the secret to truly succeeding in this world involves constant self-education. Highly skilled: They take full responsibility for themselves and therefore work on becoming better every day. Emotionally intelligent: They are mature and understand that not everything should be taken seriously. They know how to control their emotions and reactions. They also know the right time for rage, anger, and sadness. Fit and physically capable: They are capable of far more than the average and can easily help others when in need because they are constantly mastering their bodies. High energy Focuses on internal control: Because they know we can\u0026rsquo;t control everything. Pays little attention to external: Distractions are everywhere. They know that distractions come at a hefty price and hence focus on what is necessary. Works from anywhere: They don\u0026rsquo;t need an office to work at peak levels. They don\u0026rsquo;t need jobs to put food on the table. They want an office and a job but don\u0026rsquo;t need them as they are skilled in the use of the technologies at their disposal. Builds social leverage: Social media for fun? They use it for both fun and profit, knowing which to do at the right time. Invests money and time: They know investing time and money wisely begets more time and money. Write: They journal, write articles, and generally write down their thoughts as they know this is key to becoming more articulate. Value traditional values: They know traditional values were invented for a reason and as such value them. Get 8 hours of sleep: They know sleep is key for a healthy body and brain and hence optimize their sleep ensuring the given time for the body to heal itself. Read: They know little and hence build upon existing knowledge by reading books. Especially philosophy and self-improvement. They also value nonfiction. Love their family: They know family is important. Capable of extreme violence but don\u0026rsquo;t practice: They know that there\u0026rsquo;s nothing. Eat right: Their bodies are a symbol of their discipline and as such, they take care of it well by feeding it with the nutrients it needs. Natural and Organic with plenty of meat and animal fats. Watch what they think/see/hear: They know that thoughts are gateways to the soul and as such negative thoughts have a negative influence on their bodies, souls, and reality. They have an abundance mindset. Have/build/join a \u0026ldquo;tribe\u0026rdquo;: They know that no man is an island and hence gather together with like-minded people in order to grow as a community. Believe in a Supreme Creator: Let\u0026rsquo;s be honest, nothing creates itself. Nothing occurs by its self. There has to be a source of creation. I believe this source is God, the creator of Heaven and Earth and since He is the source, he wasn\u0026rsquo;t created and instead just is. He is, He will be and He will always be there for you. I like what He calls Himself: \u0026ldquo;I am that I am\u0026rdquo;. Basically means he existed, he exists and will always exist, there\u0026rsquo;s no beginning to Him and no end. He is the source and He made us in His own image. Hence the reason we are able to create things. Align yourself with these and I believe you will be elite. Self-respect is key.\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHere are the new 1% elite members of society that are silently taking over the world. Are you one of them? if not start striving to become one of them.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe New 1% are:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSelf-educated\u003c/strong\u003e: They know that the secret to truly succeeding in this world involves constant self-education.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHighly skilled\u003c/strong\u003e: They take full responsibility for themselves and therefore work on becoming better every day.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eEmotionally intelligent\u003c/strong\u003e: They are mature and understand that not everything should be taken seriously. They know how to control their emotions and reactions. They also know the right time for rage, anger, and sadness.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFit and physically capable\u003c/strong\u003e: They are capable of far more than the average and can easily help others when in need because they are constantly mastering their bodies.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHigh energy\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFocuses on internal control\u003c/strong\u003e: Because they know we can\u0026rsquo;t control everything.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePays little attention to external\u003c/strong\u003e: Distractions are everywhere. They know that distractions come at a hefty price and hence focus on what is necessary.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWorks from anywhere\u003c/strong\u003e: They don\u0026rsquo;t need an office to work at peak levels. They don\u0026rsquo;t need jobs to put food on the table. They want an office and a job but don\u0026rsquo;t need them as they are skilled in the use of the technologies at their disposal.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBuilds social leverage\u003c/strong\u003e: Social media for fun? They use it for both fun and profit, knowing which to do at the right time.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eInvests money and time:\u003c/strong\u003e They know investing time and money wisely begets more time and money.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWrite\u003c/strong\u003e: They journal, write articles, and generally write down their thoughts as they know this is key to becoming more articulate.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eValue traditional values\u003c/strong\u003e: They know traditional values were invented for a reason and as such value them.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eGet 8 hours of sleep\u003c/strong\u003e: They know sleep is key for a healthy body and brain and hence optimize their sleep ensuring the given time for the body to heal itself.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRead: They know little and hence build upon existing knowledge by reading books. Especially philosophy and self-improvement. They also value nonfiction.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLove their family\u003c/strong\u003e: They know family is important.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eCapable of extreme violence but don\u0026rsquo;t practice\u003c/strong\u003e: They know that there\u0026rsquo;s nothing.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eEat right\u003c/strong\u003e: Their bodies are a symbol of their discipline and as such, they take care of it well by feeding it with the nutrients it needs. Natural and Organic with plenty of meat and animal fats.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWatch what they think/see/hear\u003c/strong\u003e: They know that thoughts are gateways to the soul and as such negative thoughts have a negative influence on their bodies, souls, and reality. They have an abundance mindset.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHave/build/join a \u0026ldquo;tribe\u0026rdquo;\u003c/strong\u003e: They know that no man is an island and hence gather together with like-minded people in order to grow as a community.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBelieve in a Supreme Creator\u003c/strong\u003e: Let\u0026rsquo;s be honest, nothing creates itself. Nothing occurs by its self. There has to be a source of creation. I believe this source is God, the creator of Heaven and Earth and since He is the source, he wasn\u0026rsquo;t created and instead just is. He is, He will be and He will always be there for you. I like what He calls Himself: \u0026ldquo;I am that I am\u0026rdquo;. Basically means he existed, he exists and will always exist, there\u0026rsquo;s no beginning to Him and no end. He is the source and He made us in His own image.  Hence the reason we are able to \u003cstrong\u003ecreate\u003c/strong\u003e things.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAlign yourself with these and I believe you will be elite. Self-respect is key.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe New 1% also dress well, smell good and wear cool shades. That\u0026rsquo;s why today I\u0026rsquo;m hooking you up with a 10% discount on quality clothing, fragrance, and eyewear.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://www.esntls.co/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eVisit ESNTLS for top-notch discounted clothing that makes you look great and feel even greater!\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://santaluciafragrance.com/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eVisit Santa Lucia Fragrance for top-notch discounted perfumes that make you smell great!\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ca href=\"https://www.jadeblack.co/?ref=kuzqn53jomp-\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eVisit JadeBlack for top-note discounted sunglasses and glasses that draw out your game face perfectly!\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAll the people who use my link get 10% off all their products + free shipping(if you live in the US). Bookmark the links for future purchases because I can assure you that you will love these products.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHave a great day.\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-11-19T11:08:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/helena-lopes-uze35tk5uoa-unsplash.jpg","tags":["self improvement","personal development","growth","abundance","creator","creation","self mastery"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/how-to-level-up-10-simple-steps/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/how-to-level-up-10-simple-steps/","title":"How To Level Up: 10 Simple Steps","summary":"1. Read 10 pages a day Dedicate 1 hour a day to learning deliberately this can be through reading any book(better with Self-help and self-development) even the Bible. I will soon post books you can read in a separate post. Learn more about the 5-hour rule.\n2. Balance out the negative talk with positive talk and vice versa They say too much of something is poisonous and this is very true even in positive mental talk. If you are positive all the time, life will hit you like a fast-moving truck on a highway. Balance it out. Identify the things you are bad at, bad things you have done and fix them, try adding positive self-talk of actual good things you\u0026rsquo;ve done. Mental health should be a priority, don\u0026rsquo;t just dwell on the negative, everyone on this planet has a good side. Try balancing, this way you can solve personal problems within yourself and help yourself realize your attractive traits.\n","content_html":"\u003ch2 id=\"1-read-10-pages-a-day\"\u003e1. Read 10 pages a day\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eDedicate 1 hour a day to learning deliberately this can be through reading any book(better with Self-help and self-development) even the Bible. I will soon post books you can read in a separate post. Learn more about the 5-hour rule.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"2-balance-out-the-negative-talk-with-positive-talk-and-vice-versa\"\u003e2. Balance out the negative talk with positive talk and vice versa\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey say too much of something is poisonous and this is very true even in positive mental talk. If you are positive all the time, life will hit you like a fast-moving truck on a highway. Balance it out. Identify the things you are bad at, bad things you have done and fix them, try adding positive self-talk of actual good things you\u0026rsquo;ve done. Mental health should be a priority, don\u0026rsquo;t just dwell on the negative, everyone on this planet has a good side. Try balancing, this way you can solve personal problems within yourself and help yourself realize your attractive traits.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"3-make-your-bed\"\u003e3. Make your bed\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSomeone once said, \u0026ldquo;If you want to change the world, make your bed\u0026rdquo;. Small steps lead to big results. This may seem small and annoying but it actually builds your day into a successful one.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"4-take-responsibility-for-your-life\"\u003e4. Take responsibility for your life\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis is a no-brainer. No one is to blame for the challenges you are facing. You are! Move away, Fix, and Avoid things you know have dire consequences.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"5-build-your-online-presence\"\u003e5. Build your online presence\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFirst, start with changing all your profiles so as to have matching names. Many people underestimate the importance of consistency online. Few have reaped the benefits of showing your real name and posting meaningful posts.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"6-work-out\"\u003e6. Work out\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou need to understand the importance of having a good and flexible body. It transcends physical benefits. Your mind gets clearer. Your body feels lighter and better. It boosts your immune system and so much more.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"7-adopt-a-healthier-diet\"\u003e7. Adopt a healthier diet\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMy recommendation: \u003cstrong\u003eHigh Fat, Low/Nonexistent Sugar, Low Carbs, More Veggies, More Protein, More Water and Less Frequency\u003c/strong\u003e(One Meal A Day, or Intermittent Fasting, or One and A Half Meal A Day)\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"8-write-something\"\u003e8. Write something\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo many people all over the globe attest to the importance and benefits of writing. Try starting a journal, if it\u0026rsquo;s a bit hard try \u003cstrong\u003eGratitude Journaling\u003c/strong\u003e. This can also be blogging like \u003ca href=\"https://ajulusthoughts.stephenajulu.com/authors/stephen-ajulu/\"\u003e**me **\u003c/a\u003ebut keep a separate journal for private thoughts.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"9-get-a-joband-build-a-side-hustle-or-build-a-business\"\u003e9. Get a job(and build a side hustle) or build a business\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSimple, right? Get a high-paying job and make a side hustle or build a business. Money is everything in our world don\u0026rsquo;t be fooled. Dream big. Put in the work and enjoy the results. \u003cstrong\u003eMake it a priority to build 6 income sources.\u003c/strong\u003e\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"10-start-investing--saving\"\u003e10. Start investing + saving\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eInvest in stocks, cryptocurrencies, real estate, people, and more. But first, build an emergency fund. \u003cstrong\u003eTip: Build an emergency fund capable of carrying you(with your current lifestyle) for 6 months\u003c/strong\u003e. This acts as a cushion for cases like this pandemic. Many people were laid off and they didn\u0026rsquo;t have an emergency fund. Get yourself a health insurance cover as well.\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-08-01T18:36:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/kelvin-zhang-2zok5j-13ma-unsplash.jpg","tags":["self improvement","growth","self help"]}]}