{"version":"https://jsonfeed.org/version/1.1","title":"Stephen Ajulu","home_page_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/","feed_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/tags/dating/feed.json","description":"Hello, I'm Stephen Ajulu, a seasoned multidisciplinary tech professional with over a decade of experience. I build impactful solutions using design, tech, and engineering in the pursuit of impact.","icon":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg","authors":[{"name":"Stephen Ajulu","url":"https://stephenajulu.com","avatar":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg"}],"items":[{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/here-s-how-i-m-going-to-be-an-outlier-top-10-male-in-5-years/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/here-s-how-i-m-going-to-be-an-outlier-top-10-male-in-5-years/","title":"Outlier Male Series: My Plan to Become an Outlier Male in 5 years","summary":"Hello guys, as the title says. Here\u0026rsquo;s how I plan to become an outlier male.\nWhy do I plan to become an outlier male?\nI want my family to live a comfortable life I want to live a better life I want to have an abundance of top-quality women(Surface level) I want to be healthy and strong I want to be financially free and have time freedom I want to pursue my genuine curiosity I want to enter a room and have people look. A king\u0026rsquo;s presence. I want my lineage to be safe and secure I just want to be better. I want to be at the top. I want to be better than other men. I want to have an abundance. I want to live a life well-lived. There are different pillars of a man\u0026rsquo;s life that need to be built up, these are:\n","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHello guys, as the title says. Here\u0026rsquo;s how I plan to become an outlier male.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWhy do I plan to become an outlier male?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want my family to live a comfortable life\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want to live a better life\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want to have an abundance of top-quality women(Surface level)\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want to be healthy and strong\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want to be financially free and have time freedom\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want to pursue my genuine curiosity\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want to enter a room and have people look. A king\u0026rsquo;s presence.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want my lineage to be safe and secure\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI just want to be better. I want to be at the top. I want to be better than other men. I want to have an abundance.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eI want to live a life well-lived.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThere are different pillars of a man\u0026rsquo;s life that need to be built up, these are:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHealth/Body\u003c/strong\u003e: Be in shape, healthy and active. Hormone, sleep, diet, and other optimizations\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWealth/Money/Resources/Assets\u003c/strong\u003e: Have resources and money. Investments. Crypto. Stocks. Real Estate.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRelationships\u003c/strong\u003e: Be good to my family. Build a good circle of primarily male friends who have similar goals of reaching the top. Cutting out untrustworthy friends. Building a do-or-die brotherhood who help each other. Finding a good woman. Leading your family.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFaith\u003c/strong\u003e: Get closer to God\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eMind\u003c/strong\u003e: Amass knowledge. Practice. Learn skills. Learn new languages. Fix mindset. Reading books.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eStyle\u003c/strong\u003e: Dress better. Smell Better. Look freaking great.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eOthers\u003c/strong\u003e: Body language, experience, game, stoicism, leadership, accountability, responsibility, frame control, emotional control, sexual interactions, looks maxing, personal branding, fighting, manly skills \u0026amp; more\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLife setup\u003c/strong\u003e (Male Advantage years 25 -40): Getting things in place to look, feel and be high value e.g. nice car, nice house, nice everything.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo, to begin, I\u0026rsquo;ll focus on 3 things. I won\u0026rsquo;t do more than 3 things at a time because then the transformation will be exhaustive and I\u0026rsquo;ll quit mid-way. I\u0026rsquo;ll only do more when I can.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMy first focus will be on Health/Body, Mind \u0026amp; Faith/Spirituality. But along the way, I\u0026rsquo;ll incorporate Others into the plan.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe have 5 years. I\u0026rsquo;ve broken this into:\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"year-1--2-body-mind-and-spirit\"\u003eYear 1 \u0026amp; 2: Body, Mind, and Spirit\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"year-3--4-wealth-style--others\"\u003eYear 3 \u0026amp; 4: Wealth, Style \u0026amp; Others\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003ch2 id=\"year-5-life-setup--relationships\"\u003eYear 5: Life setup \u0026amp; Relationships\u003c/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHere\u0026rsquo;s how I think about it.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou can\u0026rsquo;t have a nice house and a hot chick if you don\u0026rsquo;t have money or relationship skills, you can\u0026rsquo;t have money. if you don\u0026rsquo;t have the skills.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNow, of course, you can be fat with mental issues and still be rich or you can have a nice body but still be broke. The key is not 100% of all these things but 70% even 60% across the board.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eNow life setup and relationships are last, not because you should avoid your family or not set up your life well but rather because I believe you\u0026rsquo;ll have more time and resources in the future that you can use to set them up better, let\u0026rsquo;s take life setup, for example, it requires money. Relationships require time.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou don\u0026rsquo;t want a situation where you are busy chasing girls while doing the above, it will likely end in a catastrophe. You can also decide to go the road of faking a good lifestyle but people will smell it on you that you don\u0026rsquo;t have half of what you brag about on social media.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYou should first build your body, this will allow you to \u0026ldquo;focus\u0026rdquo; on building the mind all while you are connecting to your spirituality. A healthy body + a healthy spirituality = an even healthier mind. You need all these pieces to go to step 2 which is where we primarily focus on making money, improving style and more. Once you are fit, clothes fit you better. And with the halo effect + hypergamy to your advantage, it becomes a done deal.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe Bible is an amazing book that can build the mind as well as your spirituality.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese three things are connected because they form you. No one can take your knowledge, skills, and strength from you of course except God.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut man can take your wealth, your clothes, your life setup, your cars, your girl and even destroy your relationships. That\u0026rsquo;s why you need to build YOU first then build all the others because then you already have the skills, the knowledge, the experience, the body, the mind and the spirit, building whatever is stolen is easier. Plus once you follow this systematically, who would even dare try to take your stuff or your girl. You\u0026rsquo;ll be rich, jacked, know how taekwondo or something and have The Almighty God by your side. No one will want to fuck with you because you are UNSTOPPABLE. This is what girls love in a man. Ambition. Wealth. Determination. Prespicacity as Andrew Tate, the top G says. These are the benefits of following this order.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnother thing about this is this order is the best way to build a foundation.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;ll go on this \u0026ldquo;hero\u0026rsquo;s journey\u0026rdquo; with you. The goal or rather the light at the end of the tunnel is YOU being the top g, having time and financial freedom with an abundance of resources.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn the next post, I\u0026rsquo;ll talk a bit about who I am, who an outlier male is, and why we should strive to become like him. ({ADONIS} in Hamza\u0026rsquo;s voice)\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn the next post after that, I\u0026rsquo;ll cover my plans for body, mind, and spirit, the foundational pillars. And, by the way, you don\u0026rsquo;t have to be a Christian to follow these. In spirituality, for example, you can meditate. I am however going to write it the way I\u0026rsquo;m doing it.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRemember the goal is to become a truly top-tier man by the time 5 years a done.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor those who want to join in on this. By next week, I\u0026rsquo;ll have set up a group where we can keep each other accountable and help each other.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch3 id=\"now-remember-we-are-all-beginners-even-me-i-dont-know-more-than-you-and-im-not-in-a-better-position-than-you-i-just-have-good-mentors-and-have-stolen-bits-and-pieces-from-their-word-and-have-made-this-so-you-dont-have-to-watch-100-self-improvement-videos-and-read-10-books-so-relax-lets-take-this-step-by-step\"\u003eNow remember, we are all beginners, even me. I don\u0026rsquo;t know more than you and I\u0026rsquo;m not in a better position than you. I just have good mentors and have stolen bits and pieces from their word and have made this so you don\u0026rsquo;t have to watch 100 self improvement videos and read 10 books. So relax, let\u0026rsquo;s take this step by step.\u003c/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThank you and have a good one.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eP.S. Kindly note that this program is mainly targeted toward men but women are allowed to join. Also, while the program is free the group will be paid in order to avoid spam and disrespectful people from joining. The benefits of this group are endless. I\u0026rsquo;ll talk about the group soon. The platforms are either Discord or Telegram.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThis will eventually become paid once we are done with the first section, only those who join now, within the first 2 years since the posting of this article will get in for free.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ciframe src=\"https://anchor.fm/stephenajulu/embed/episodes/How-Im-Going-to-Become-an-Outlier-Male-and-How-You-Can-Too-e1srjeu\" height=\"102px\" width=\"400px\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"\u003e\u003c/iframe\u003e","date_published":"2022-12-28T14:00:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/photo-nic-khhukoxqo4k-unsplash.jpg","tags":["lifestyle","health","wealth","relationships","dating"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/female-green-flags-for-men-interested-in-a-keeper/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/female-green-flags-for-men-interested-in-a-keeper/","title":"Green Flags For Men Interested In A Keeper","summary":"Hello there! How are you? With no second to waste let\u0026rsquo;s jump right in. But before that remember that you have to first put in work on yourself. Improve yourself first. Be worthy of seeking out these high-quality women.\nHas a good relationship with her father: I always say this, if she can\u0026rsquo;t respect her father what makes you think she will respect you? Does she speak highly of him? What does the family look like? If she has a good relationship with her father then that\u0026rsquo;s great. She\u0026rsquo;s nurturing. Does she take care of you when you are sick? She stays away from drama and gossip Doesn\u0026rsquo;t use social media frequently unless she\u0026rsquo;s using it for work/business She\u0026rsquo;s positive and cheerful about life She has a purpose that she\u0026rsquo;s pursuing but not a \u0026ldquo;boss-girl/boss-lady\u0026rdquo; She takes ownership of the choices/decisions in her life. She\u0026rsquo;s accountable. She\u0026rsquo;s good with money. She knows where to cut, save and invest. She doesn\u0026rsquo;t constantly ask for money for stupid stuff. She has a low body/notch count. Women who\u0026rsquo;ve been with 50, 60, 100+ guys can\u0026rsquo;t form a solid bond with a man. 50 is worse than 10, 10 is worse than 1. So focus on low body/notch count. She\u0026rsquo;s more likely to respect you and contribute to a relationship if she has a low body count. She\u0026rsquo;s pleasant and doesn\u0026rsquo;t nag you persistently She encourages you and supports your purpose She\u0026rsquo;s active and/or exercises. She\u0026rsquo;s good in the kitchen. She has to have culinary skills. Knows how to cook. She\u0026rsquo;s tidy, clean, and cleans/tidies up unprompted consistently She likes kids and treats them sweetly Doesn\u0026rsquo;t talk to multiple guys constantly She respects you and is willing to sacrifice certain things for the betterment of the relationship She\u0026rsquo;s submissive She brings solutions to your life, she\u0026rsquo;s a compliment in your life, is useful, and brings something to the table She\u0026rsquo;s collaborative ","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHello there! How are you? With no second to waste let\u0026rsquo;s jump right in. But before that remember that you have to first put in work on yourself. Improve yourself first. Be worthy of seeking out these high-quality women.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHas a good relationship with her father: I always say this, if she can\u0026rsquo;t respect her father what makes you think she will respect you? Does she speak highly of him? What does the family look like? If she has a good relationship with her father then that\u0026rsquo;s great.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s nurturing. Does she take care of you when you are sick?\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe stays away from drama and gossip\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDoesn\u0026rsquo;t use social media frequently unless she\u0026rsquo;s using it for work/business\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s positive and cheerful about life\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe has a purpose that she\u0026rsquo;s pursuing but not a \u0026ldquo;boss-girl/boss-lady\u0026rdquo;\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe takes ownership of the choices/decisions in her life. She\u0026rsquo;s accountable.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s good with money. She knows where to cut, save and invest. She doesn\u0026rsquo;t constantly ask for money for stupid stuff.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe has a low body/notch count. Women who\u0026rsquo;ve been with 50, 60, 100+ guys can\u0026rsquo;t form a solid bond with a man. 50 is worse than 10, 10 is worse than 1. So focus on low body/notch count. She\u0026rsquo;s more likely to respect you and contribute to a relationship if she has a low body count.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s pleasant and doesn\u0026rsquo;t nag you persistently\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe encourages you and supports your purpose\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s active and/or exercises.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s good in the kitchen. She has to have culinary skills. Knows how to cook.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s tidy, clean, and cleans/tidies up unprompted consistently\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe likes kids and treats them sweetly\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDoesn\u0026rsquo;t talk to multiple guys constantly\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe respects you and is willing to sacrifice certain things for the betterment of the relationship\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s submissive\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe brings solutions to your life, she\u0026rsquo;s a compliment in your life, is useful, and brings something to the table\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShe\u0026rsquo;s collaborative\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n","date_published":"2022-01-27T13:04:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/sasha-freemind-nxo2zskhthg-unsplash.jpg","tags":["dating","women","green flags"," red flags"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/20-red-flags-for-men/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/20-red-flags-for-men/","title":"Men, Here Are 20 Characteristics Of The Women to Avoid","summary":"Hello guys, today I\u0026rsquo;ll cover 20 red flags that if you see from a woman, run away very fast.\nToo many male friends and male best friends Calls you and/or other men \u0026ldquo;bro\u0026rdquo; Calls herself \u0026ldquo;Queen\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;Bitch\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;Princess\u0026rdquo; and/or \u0026ldquo;Brat\u0026rdquo; Heavily tattooed and pierced Dislikes her father/daddy issues Is a feminist Earns more than you - Not necessarily a red flag. But a word of caution. Make sure you earn more, this ties in with the next point Is older than you - if she\u0026rsquo;s younger it will be easier for her to respect you vs vice-versa Is fat - If she\u0026rsquo;s fat and is comfortable being fat, she will have issues with childbirth. Not to mention her hormones are messed up and she\u0026rsquo;s likely very moody. Has kids from different fathers - Do I really need to tell you why this is bad? The only time this is understandable is if she\u0026rsquo;s been widowed multiple times. But this in itself is also a red flag. She could be a \u0026ldquo;black widow spider\u0026rdquo;. Has kids, period - Unless widowed. Simply because you will have the responsibility of taking care of the kids but you won\u0026rsquo;t be able to discipline the kids Is unhappy and unlucky - If laughter and yawning are contagious, then guess what? Being unhappy and unlucky are too. There are those you can help but generally, most women prefer not being changed by a man. Always negative - A person dear to me calls them \u0026ldquo;People with a Ph.D. (Pull him Down)\u0026rdquo;. Negativity is contagious. Keeps men from her past around - This is a big red flag. Why would you keep someone you ended a relationship with around? Poor with money - It will be your money that she will mismanage. Is violent - Unless you like to be hit by a woman like a submissive beta. Stay away. Likes to party too much - Not a good sign. Doesn\u0026rsquo;t respect you - If a woman doesn\u0026rsquo;t respect you she will cheat on you. Simple as that. Big notch/body counts - A woman who has been with multiple men CAN NOT be monogamous. It\u0026rsquo;s impossible. She has formed multiple soul ties with men and is therefore unable to form a solid bond with a single man. Be very careful with these types. They will cheat on you multiple times and not feel guilty. Stay away especially if she lost her virginity while she was very young unless she was raped. Very active on social media posting sexy or somewhat sexy pics - This means she\u0026rsquo;s looking for someone else. Bonus: Is into astrology and new age beliefs ","content_html":"\u003cp\u003eHello guys, today I\u0026rsquo;ll cover 20 red flags that if you see from a woman, run away very fast.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eToo many male friends and male best friends\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCalls you and/or other men \u0026ldquo;bro\u0026rdquo;\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCalls herself \u0026ldquo;Queen\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;Bitch\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;Princess\u0026rdquo; and/or \u0026ldquo;Brat\u0026rdquo;\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHeavily tattooed and pierced\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDislikes her father/daddy issues\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIs a feminist\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEarns more than you - Not necessarily a red flag. But a word of caution. Make sure you earn more, this ties in with the next point\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIs older than you - if she\u0026rsquo;s younger it will be easier for her to respect you vs vice-versa\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIs fat - If she\u0026rsquo;s fat and is comfortable being fat, she will have issues with childbirth. Not to mention her hormones are messed up and she\u0026rsquo;s likely very moody.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHas kids from different fathers - Do I really need to tell you why this is bad? The only time this is understandable is if she\u0026rsquo;s been widowed multiple times. But this in itself is also a red flag. She could be a \u0026ldquo;black widow spider\u0026rdquo;.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHas kids, period - Unless widowed. Simply because you will have the responsibility of taking care of the kids but you won\u0026rsquo;t be able to discipline the kids\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIs unhappy and unlucky - If laughter and yawning are contagious, then guess what? Being unhappy and unlucky are too. There are those you can help but generally, most women prefer not being changed by a man.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAlways negative - A person dear to me calls them \u0026ldquo;People with a Ph.D. (Pull him Down)\u0026rdquo;. Negativity is contagious.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKeeps men from her past around - This is a big red flag. Why would you keep someone you ended a relationship with around?\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePoor with money - It will be your money that she will mismanage.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIs violent - Unless you like to be hit by a woman like a submissive beta. Stay away.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLikes to party too much - Not a good sign.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDoesn\u0026rsquo;t respect you - If a woman doesn\u0026rsquo;t respect you she will cheat on you. Simple as that.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBig notch/body counts - A woman who has been with multiple men CAN NOT be monogamous. It\u0026rsquo;s impossible. She has formed multiple soul ties with men and is therefore unable to form a solid bond with a single man. Be very careful with these types. They will cheat on you multiple times and not feel guilty. Stay away especially if she lost her virginity while she was very young unless she was raped.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eVery active on social media posting sexy or somewhat sexy pics - This means she\u0026rsquo;s looking for someone else.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBonus: Is into astrology and new age beliefs\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n","date_published":"2022-01-10T13:25:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/olga-solodilova-2hwdnsti2zw-unsplash.jpg","tags":["dating","for men","men","red flags"]},{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/ladies-here-s-what-men-want/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/ladies-here-s-what-men-want/","title":"Ladies, Here's What Men Want and It's Surprisingly Simple","summary":" Physical Attraction - He must feel physically attracted to you. We first fall in love with what we see. And no I\u0026rsquo;m not suggesting you go for butt lifts and apply excessive makeup. Just do you, look good. If you are alone, show some skin. Do the old \u0026ldquo;picking up my scarf/handkerchief to show a bit of my ass\u0026rdquo; thing you used to do. LOSE WEIGHT! Unless he\u0026rsquo;s into Fat-BBW. But seriously lose weight. Look, ladies, I understand but it\u0026rsquo;s always better to improve than to make excuses and stay unhealthy. Can you say you are truly happy with that extra weight? If you are, fine but 9 times out of 10 you are not and you have been lying to yourself that it\u0026rsquo;s okay to be fat. But no it isn\u0026rsquo;t, being overweight predisposes you to so many health risks even childbirth complications. Every man I know wants a healthy wife with whom he can live a long life and have healthy kids who he can see grow up. I\u0026rsquo;m not body shaming you. Lose weight don\u0026rsquo;t make excuses. Choose growth over comfort. Just look good. You don\u0026rsquo;t need a fat ass to get a guy. Stay clean, look healthy, I hear there are exercises that give you hips? Try them. I mean why not? You\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, he\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, everyone wins right? Respect - Men naturally want to be respected especially by you. We want to dominate. To feel wanted - Don\u0026rsquo;t hesitate to show him how much you love and want him, especially sexually. Give him the \u0026ldquo;thirst gaze\u0026rdquo; sometimes. Just don\u0026rsquo;t be needy and clingy. There are plenty of ways you can do this without being insufferable. Loyalty - You know cheating hurts especially if you are truly committed. It hurts. So why put him through that for nothing. Just stay loyal or end the relationship. It\u0026rsquo;s not asking too much. Stop entertaining the countless men who constantly text you. \u0026ldquo;Curve them niggars\u0026rdquo;. Keep things minimal with that male \u0026ldquo;best\u0026rdquo; friend. Avoid going out with men even if they are your friends. I\u0026rsquo;ll tell you this for free, that male best friend + countless others definitely want to bang you. Without a doubt. So does almost every single male friend you have. Men and Women can\u0026rsquo;t be friends. It\u0026rsquo;s impossible. Unless the guys are effeminate, beta or gay. Support - Not monetary support unless he\u0026rsquo;s having financial difficulties. But you know, emotional, spiritual(Pray for him), and mental support. I mean at the end of a stressful day kind of support. Let him find food is ready, no quarrels, house clean, you looking good with a big smile on your face. Hug him. Ask him how his day went. It\u0026rsquo;s the little things that matter. Help him take his tie and socks off and serve him. Then \u0026ldquo;serve\u0026rdquo; him some more, if you know what I mean. Don\u0026rsquo;t be another challenge he has to conquer. Don\u0026rsquo;t be naggy. If there\u0026rsquo;s an issue, find an appropriate time, sit down with him and air it out like the civil adults you are. Don\u0026rsquo;t raise your voice. If he\u0026rsquo;s in a bad mood, schedule it for another time. Unless it\u0026rsquo;s urgent. Femininity - No man wants another \u0026ldquo;man\u0026rdquo; in his house unless he\u0026rsquo;s gay so stop with these \u0026ldquo;what a man can do, a woman can do better\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;I am the boss bitch\u0026rdquo; and \u0026ldquo;I am better than you\u0026rdquo; attitudes. Sure there are things you can do better but be humble about it. Be humble and submissive. This doesn\u0026rsquo;t make you less awesome, in fact being feminine and submissive is what will make him proud to have you. It\u0026rsquo;s a HUGE turn-on. Men love to be dominant. It\u0026rsquo;s the testosterone coursing through our veins. So don\u0026rsquo;t shy away from being feminine. Sometimes all a man needs is for you to be the type of woman God created you to be in the first place: A HELPER \u0026amp; SUPPORTER! Life is hard as it is. We constantly have to fight demons that sometimes even you aren\u0026rsquo;t aware of. Don\u0026rsquo;t spend his money unnecessarily. Don\u0026rsquo;t nag. Don\u0026rsquo;t cheat. Be his helper and cheerleader. In fact, I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you be wise. Telling him \u0026ldquo;Hey daddy, saw this amazing plot near the road, it has the potential to become worth something great\u0026rdquo;.\n","content_html":"\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePhysical Attraction\u003c/strong\u003e - He must feel physically attracted to you. We first fall in love with what we see. And no I\u0026rsquo;m not suggesting you go for butt lifts and apply excessive makeup. Just do you, look good. If you are alone, show some skin. Do the old \u0026ldquo;picking up my scarf/handkerchief to show a bit of my ass\u0026rdquo; thing you used to do. LOSE WEIGHT! Unless he\u0026rsquo;s into Fat-BBW. But seriously lose weight. Look, ladies, I understand but it\u0026rsquo;s always better to improve than to make excuses and stay unhealthy. Can you say you are truly happy with that extra weight? If you are, fine but 9 times out of 10 you are not and you have been lying to yourself that it\u0026rsquo;s okay to be fat. But no it isn\u0026rsquo;t, being overweight predisposes you to so many health risks even childbirth complications. Every man I know wants a healthy wife with whom he can live a long life and have healthy kids who he can see grow up. I\u0026rsquo;m not body shaming you. Lose weight don\u0026rsquo;t make excuses. Choose growth over comfort. Just look good. You don\u0026rsquo;t need a fat ass to get a guy. Stay clean, look healthy, I hear there are exercises that give you hips? Try them. I mean why not? You\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, he\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, everyone wins right?\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRespect\u003c/strong\u003e - Men naturally want to be respected especially by you. We want to dominate.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTo feel wanted\u003c/strong\u003e - Don\u0026rsquo;t hesitate to show him how much you love and want him, especially sexually. Give him the \u0026ldquo;thirst gaze\u0026rdquo; sometimes. Just don\u0026rsquo;t be needy and clingy. There are plenty of ways you can do this without being insufferable.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLoyalty\u003c/strong\u003e - You know cheating hurts especially if you are truly committed. It hurts. So why put him through that for nothing. Just stay loyal or end the relationship. It\u0026rsquo;s not asking too much. Stop entertaining the countless men who constantly text you. \u0026ldquo;Curve them niggars\u0026rdquo;. Keep things minimal with that male \u0026ldquo;best\u0026rdquo; friend. Avoid going out with men even if they are your friends. I\u0026rsquo;ll tell you this for free, that male best friend + countless others definitely want to bang you. Without a doubt. So does almost every single male friend you have. Men and Women can\u0026rsquo;t be friends. It\u0026rsquo;s impossible. Unless the guys are effeminate, beta or gay.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSupport\u003c/strong\u003e - Not monetary support unless he\u0026rsquo;s having financial difficulties. But you know, emotional, spiritual(Pray for him), and mental support. I mean at the end of a stressful day kind of support. Let him find food is ready, no quarrels, house clean, you looking good with a big smile on your face. Hug him. Ask him how his day went. It\u0026rsquo;s the little things that matter. Help him take his tie and socks off and serve him. Then \u0026ldquo;serve\u0026rdquo; him some more, if you know what I mean. Don\u0026rsquo;t be another challenge he has to conquer. Don\u0026rsquo;t be naggy. If there\u0026rsquo;s an issue, find an appropriate time, sit down with him and air it out like the civil adults you are. Don\u0026rsquo;t raise your voice. If he\u0026rsquo;s in a bad mood, schedule it for another time. Unless it\u0026rsquo;s urgent.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFemininity\u003c/strong\u003e - No man wants another \u0026ldquo;man\u0026rdquo; in his house unless he\u0026rsquo;s gay so stop with these \u0026ldquo;what a man can do, a woman can do better\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;I am the boss bitch\u0026rdquo; and \u0026ldquo;I am better than you\u0026rdquo; attitudes. Sure there are things you can do better but be humble about it. Be humble and submissive. This doesn\u0026rsquo;t make you less awesome, in fact being feminine and submissive is what will make him proud to have you. It\u0026rsquo;s a HUGE turn-on. Men love to be dominant. It\u0026rsquo;s the testosterone coursing through our veins. So don\u0026rsquo;t shy away from being feminine.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"sometimes-all-a-man-needs-is-for-you-to-be-the-type-of-woman-god-created-you-to-be-in-the-first-place-a-helper--supporter\"\u003eSometimes all a man needs is for you to be the type of woman God created you to be in the first place: A HELPER \u0026amp; SUPPORTER!\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLife is hard as it is. We constantly have to fight demons that sometimes even you aren\u0026rsquo;t aware of. Don\u0026rsquo;t spend his money unnecessarily. Don\u0026rsquo;t nag. Don\u0026rsquo;t cheat. Be his helper and cheerleader. In fact, I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you be wise. Telling him \u0026ldquo;Hey daddy, saw this amazing plot near the road, it has the potential to become worth something great\u0026rdquo;.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd no, most men don\u0026rsquo;t care too much about your degree or how much money you make unless you make more than him or he\u0026rsquo;s broke or he wants to use you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"they-just-want-a-beautiful-attractive-and-feminine-woman-who-can-cook-clean-support-and-have-good-sex-with-thats-really-it-and-sometimes-thats-enough-to-keep-a-man-happy-and-a-happy-man-is-a-faithful-and-committed-man\"\u003eThey just want a beautiful, attractive, and feminine woman who can cook, clean, support, and have good sex with. That\u0026rsquo;s really it and sometimes that\u0026rsquo;s enough to keep a man happy and a happy man is a faithful and committed man!\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eStrive to be that good woman he can be proud of. Also about that cookie jar, please ration it. Don\u0026rsquo;t forget things wear and tear.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinal note: There are some great men out there. You just have to rethink what you want and shift your focus. Don\u0026rsquo;t stay with an abusive man unless of course, you like the abuse(You BDSM loving ladies, you!). Don\u0026rsquo;t stay with a bad man either. Men only change for the right one! If he isn\u0026rsquo;t changing his ways, move on.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd kindly tell me your thoughts down below in the comments!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you feel insulted or triggered, I\u0026rsquo;d also like to hear from you too. Why are you triggered? What can remedy that? Are you sure you are speaking honestly?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"remember-the-same-way-women-judge-men-based-on-height-fitness-and-financial-status-men-judge-women-based-on-health-problematic-scale-and-beauty\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRemember\u003c/strong\u003e the same way, women judge men based on height, fitness, and financial status, men judge women based on health, problematic scale, and beauty.\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;ll just randomly throw the word \u0026ldquo;double standards\u0026rdquo; here.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHave a great day ladies!\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-12-18T14:32:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/jd-mason-q9rqinia5ou-unsplash.jpg","tags":["dating","couple","what men want","men","women","couples","marriage","couple","ladies","gents","gentlemen","men of culture","man of culture","dating","courtship"]}]}