{"version":"https://jsonfeed.org/version/1.1","title":"Stephen Ajulu","home_page_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/","feed_url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/tags/ladies/feed.json","description":"Hello, I'm Stephen Ajulu, a seasoned multidisciplinary tech professional with over a decade of experience. I build impactful solutions using design, tech, and engineering in the pursuit of impact.","icon":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg","authors":[{"name":"Stephen Ajulu","url":"https://stephenajulu.com","avatar":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/me.jpg"}],"items":[{"id":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/ladies-here-s-what-men-want/","url":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/posts/ladies-here-s-what-men-want/","title":"Ladies, Here's What Men Want and It's Surprisingly Simple","summary":" Physical Attraction - He must feel physically attracted to you. We first fall in love with what we see. And no I\u0026rsquo;m not suggesting you go for butt lifts and apply excessive makeup. Just do you, look good. If you are alone, show some skin. Do the old \u0026ldquo;picking up my scarf/handkerchief to show a bit of my ass\u0026rdquo; thing you used to do. LOSE WEIGHT! Unless he\u0026rsquo;s into Fat-BBW. But seriously lose weight. Look, ladies, I understand but it\u0026rsquo;s always better to improve than to make excuses and stay unhealthy. Can you say you are truly happy with that extra weight? If you are, fine but 9 times out of 10 you are not and you have been lying to yourself that it\u0026rsquo;s okay to be fat. But no it isn\u0026rsquo;t, being overweight predisposes you to so many health risks even childbirth complications. Every man I know wants a healthy wife with whom he can live a long life and have healthy kids who he can see grow up. I\u0026rsquo;m not body shaming you. Lose weight don\u0026rsquo;t make excuses. Choose growth over comfort. Just look good. You don\u0026rsquo;t need a fat ass to get a guy. Stay clean, look healthy, I hear there are exercises that give you hips? Try them. I mean why not? You\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, he\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, everyone wins right? Respect - Men naturally want to be respected especially by you. We want to dominate. To feel wanted - Don\u0026rsquo;t hesitate to show him how much you love and want him, especially sexually. Give him the \u0026ldquo;thirst gaze\u0026rdquo; sometimes. Just don\u0026rsquo;t be needy and clingy. There are plenty of ways you can do this without being insufferable. Loyalty - You know cheating hurts especially if you are truly committed. It hurts. So why put him through that for nothing. Just stay loyal or end the relationship. It\u0026rsquo;s not asking too much. Stop entertaining the countless men who constantly text you. \u0026ldquo;Curve them niggars\u0026rdquo;. Keep things minimal with that male \u0026ldquo;best\u0026rdquo; friend. Avoid going out with men even if they are your friends. I\u0026rsquo;ll tell you this for free, that male best friend + countless others definitely want to bang you. Without a doubt. So does almost every single male friend you have. Men and Women can\u0026rsquo;t be friends. It\u0026rsquo;s impossible. Unless the guys are effeminate, beta or gay. Support - Not monetary support unless he\u0026rsquo;s having financial difficulties. But you know, emotional, spiritual(Pray for him), and mental support. I mean at the end of a stressful day kind of support. Let him find food is ready, no quarrels, house clean, you looking good with a big smile on your face. Hug him. Ask him how his day went. It\u0026rsquo;s the little things that matter. Help him take his tie and socks off and serve him. Then \u0026ldquo;serve\u0026rdquo; him some more, if you know what I mean. Don\u0026rsquo;t be another challenge he has to conquer. Don\u0026rsquo;t be naggy. If there\u0026rsquo;s an issue, find an appropriate time, sit down with him and air it out like the civil adults you are. Don\u0026rsquo;t raise your voice. If he\u0026rsquo;s in a bad mood, schedule it for another time. Unless it\u0026rsquo;s urgent. Femininity - No man wants another \u0026ldquo;man\u0026rdquo; in his house unless he\u0026rsquo;s gay so stop with these \u0026ldquo;what a man can do, a woman can do better\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;I am the boss bitch\u0026rdquo; and \u0026ldquo;I am better than you\u0026rdquo; attitudes. Sure there are things you can do better but be humble about it. Be humble and submissive. This doesn\u0026rsquo;t make you less awesome, in fact being feminine and submissive is what will make him proud to have you. It\u0026rsquo;s a HUGE turn-on. Men love to be dominant. It\u0026rsquo;s the testosterone coursing through our veins. So don\u0026rsquo;t shy away from being feminine. Sometimes all a man needs is for you to be the type of woman God created you to be in the first place: A HELPER \u0026amp; SUPPORTER! Life is hard as it is. We constantly have to fight demons that sometimes even you aren\u0026rsquo;t aware of. Don\u0026rsquo;t spend his money unnecessarily. Don\u0026rsquo;t nag. Don\u0026rsquo;t cheat. Be his helper and cheerleader. In fact, I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you be wise. Telling him \u0026ldquo;Hey daddy, saw this amazing plot near the road, it has the potential to become worth something great\u0026rdquo;.\n","content_html":"\u003col\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePhysical Attraction\u003c/strong\u003e - He must feel physically attracted to you. We first fall in love with what we see. And no I\u0026rsquo;m not suggesting you go for butt lifts and apply excessive makeup. Just do you, look good. If you are alone, show some skin. Do the old \u0026ldquo;picking up my scarf/handkerchief to show a bit of my ass\u0026rdquo; thing you used to do. LOSE WEIGHT! Unless he\u0026rsquo;s into Fat-BBW. But seriously lose weight. Look, ladies, I understand but it\u0026rsquo;s always better to improve than to make excuses and stay unhealthy. Can you say you are truly happy with that extra weight? If you are, fine but 9 times out of 10 you are not and you have been lying to yourself that it\u0026rsquo;s okay to be fat. But no it isn\u0026rsquo;t, being overweight predisposes you to so many health risks even childbirth complications. Every man I know wants a healthy wife with whom he can live a long life and have healthy kids who he can see grow up. I\u0026rsquo;m not body shaming you. Lose weight don\u0026rsquo;t make excuses. Choose growth over comfort. Just look good. You don\u0026rsquo;t need a fat ass to get a guy. Stay clean, look healthy, I hear there are exercises that give you hips? Try them. I mean why not? You\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, he\u0026rsquo;ll feel good, everyone wins right?\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRespect\u003c/strong\u003e - Men naturally want to be respected especially by you. We want to dominate.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTo feel wanted\u003c/strong\u003e - Don\u0026rsquo;t hesitate to show him how much you love and want him, especially sexually. Give him the \u0026ldquo;thirst gaze\u0026rdquo; sometimes. Just don\u0026rsquo;t be needy and clingy. There are plenty of ways you can do this without being insufferable.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLoyalty\u003c/strong\u003e - You know cheating hurts especially if you are truly committed. It hurts. So why put him through that for nothing. Just stay loyal or end the relationship. It\u0026rsquo;s not asking too much. Stop entertaining the countless men who constantly text you. \u0026ldquo;Curve them niggars\u0026rdquo;. Keep things minimal with that male \u0026ldquo;best\u0026rdquo; friend. Avoid going out with men even if they are your friends. I\u0026rsquo;ll tell you this for free, that male best friend + countless others definitely want to bang you. Without a doubt. So does almost every single male friend you have. Men and Women can\u0026rsquo;t be friends. It\u0026rsquo;s impossible. Unless the guys are effeminate, beta or gay.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eSupport\u003c/strong\u003e - Not monetary support unless he\u0026rsquo;s having financial difficulties. But you know, emotional, spiritual(Pray for him), and mental support. I mean at the end of a stressful day kind of support. Let him find food is ready, no quarrels, house clean, you looking good with a big smile on your face. Hug him. Ask him how his day went. It\u0026rsquo;s the little things that matter. Help him take his tie and socks off and serve him. Then \u0026ldquo;serve\u0026rdquo; him some more, if you know what I mean. Don\u0026rsquo;t be another challenge he has to conquer. Don\u0026rsquo;t be naggy. If there\u0026rsquo;s an issue, find an appropriate time, sit down with him and air it out like the civil adults you are. Don\u0026rsquo;t raise your voice. If he\u0026rsquo;s in a bad mood, schedule it for another time. Unless it\u0026rsquo;s urgent.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFemininity\u003c/strong\u003e - No man wants another \u0026ldquo;man\u0026rdquo; in his house unless he\u0026rsquo;s gay so stop with these \u0026ldquo;what a man can do, a woman can do better\u0026rdquo;, \u0026ldquo;I am the boss bitch\u0026rdquo; and \u0026ldquo;I am better than you\u0026rdquo; attitudes. Sure there are things you can do better but be humble about it. Be humble and submissive. This doesn\u0026rsquo;t make you less awesome, in fact being feminine and submissive is what will make him proud to have you. It\u0026rsquo;s a HUGE turn-on. Men love to be dominant. It\u0026rsquo;s the testosterone coursing through our veins. So don\u0026rsquo;t shy away from being feminine.\u003c/li\u003e\n\u003c/ol\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"sometimes-all-a-man-needs-is-for-you-to-be-the-type-of-woman-god-created-you-to-be-in-the-first-place-a-helper--supporter\"\u003eSometimes all a man needs is for you to be the type of woman God created you to be in the first place: A HELPER \u0026amp; SUPPORTER!\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eLife is hard as it is. We constantly have to fight demons that sometimes even you aren\u0026rsquo;t aware of. Don\u0026rsquo;t spend his money unnecessarily. Don\u0026rsquo;t nag. Don\u0026rsquo;t cheat. Be his helper and cheerleader. In fact, I\u0026rsquo;d suggest you be wise. Telling him \u0026ldquo;Hey daddy, saw this amazing plot near the road, it has the potential to become worth something great\u0026rdquo;.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd no, most men don\u0026rsquo;t care too much about your degree or how much money you make unless you make more than him or he\u0026rsquo;s broke or he wants to use you.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"they-just-want-a-beautiful-attractive-and-feminine-woman-who-can-cook-clean-support-and-have-good-sex-with-thats-really-it-and-sometimes-thats-enough-to-keep-a-man-happy-and-a-happy-man-is-a-faithful-and-committed-man\"\u003eThey just want a beautiful, attractive, and feminine woman who can cook, clean, support, and have good sex with. That\u0026rsquo;s really it and sometimes that\u0026rsquo;s enough to keep a man happy and a happy man is a faithful and committed man!\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eStrive to be that good woman he can be proud of. Also about that cookie jar, please ration it. Don\u0026rsquo;t forget things wear and tear.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinal note: There are some great men out there. You just have to rethink what you want and shift your focus. Don\u0026rsquo;t stay with an abusive man unless of course, you like the abuse(You BDSM loving ladies, you!). Don\u0026rsquo;t stay with a bad man either. Men only change for the right one! If he isn\u0026rsquo;t changing his ways, move on.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAnd kindly tell me your thoughts down below in the comments!\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIf you feel insulted or triggered, I\u0026rsquo;d also like to hear from you too. Why are you triggered? What can remedy that? Are you sure you are speaking honestly?\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003ch4 id=\"remember-the-same-way-women-judge-men-based-on-height-fitness-and-financial-status-men-judge-women-based-on-health-problematic-scale-and-beauty\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eRemember\u003c/strong\u003e the same way, women judge men based on height, fitness, and financial status, men judge women based on health, problematic scale, and beauty.\u003c/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI\u0026rsquo;ll just randomly throw the word \u0026ldquo;double standards\u0026rdquo; here.\u003c/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHave a great day ladies!\u003c/p\u003e\n","date_published":"2021-12-18T14:32:00+03:00","image":"https://ajulu.netlify.app/images/jd-mason-q9rqinia5ou-unsplash.jpg","tags":["dating","couple","what men want","men","women","couples","marriage","couple","ladies","gents","gentlemen","men of culture","man of culture","dating","courtship"]}]}